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When it comes to Exes ...do you feel the need to be cordial and/or still friendly? Do you cut off ALL communication ? Does it depend on the person and/or circumstances that surrounded the breakup?

I feel you SHOULD be able to be cordial..if ur friends even more commendable but I also understand WHY this can't always be everyones reality. In some cases, not even mine. How do you feel?

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I prefer to cut off all contact since the relationships either ended badly, or they try to get back with me. I may be cordial up to a point if I see one with a brief "Hey, how are you?", but the conversation isn't going on for much longer than that.

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well let me throw in my  two cents, even if the OP may care less :lol:

 

 

what I find with my exes, is it's all in how the relationship began, if you built it off a mutual respect for each other, you could be cool after. The problem with some, is I didn't fucking do that, we found each other attractive commenced to screwing, found out we liked each other more than fuck buds, tried to take the next step, and the shit hit the fan, either I wasn't ready or they  had deep issues with trust. What I agree with many other posts, is keep the past in the damn past, let them folks go, people come and go all the time, some stay longer than others but fuck dat you can keep it moving onto something better. Am I cordial? sure to a very short point...otherwise? deuces boo :wave:

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It all depends on the person and the circumstances. Every relationship has it's own ending. There's no requirement to be friendly and stay in touch, but if both parties feel that it's worth staying in touch and being friends, then why not?

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When it comes to Exes ...do you feel the need to be cordial and/or still friendly? Do you cut off ALL communication ? Does it depend on the person and/or circumstances that surrounded the breakup?

I feel you SHOULD be able to be cordial..if ur friends even more commendable but I also understand WHY this can't always be everyones reality. In some cases, not even mine. How do you feel?

we can be friends. I always end things on a good note whether they're an ex (even tho I only have one) or a friend unless they cheated on me (I think). Me and my ex are good friends but sometimes he makes me feel we're still sorta together as you've all seen with the pics of him sleeping in my lap. There's a lot of love there but if you're fuckin' other people and not tellin' me about it it's gonna be all bad if I find out. Don't be calling me boo, saying I love you, having me hang out with you all the time while you're messing around with other people. I already asked him if he's messing around with other people and if he is just let me know cause I wanna be free and that we'll still be friends but some things are gonna change between us and he says no he's not fucking anybody. I don't believe him but Lord knows if I find out i'm goin' in. I don't like mind games being played with me. We're extremely close...7yrs now. I'm the closest guy to him even tho he's had other bfs. I believe his is but he says no cause I think he doesn't wanna lose me. Anyway I think you can be cordial. It's have to be something extremely bad for someone to do for me to cut off all communication. I've only done that to one person but it was just a regular friend

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I am cordial, if not friendly, with all of my ex's and or sexual partners. Once I've decided it's over there really is no going back to it sexually or romantically but we can be homies all day. 

 

See that's all i'm trying to find out from my ex. I asked him point blank. Are we done sexually or not and he keeps avoiding answering the question directly cause he knows i'll move on. I told him we'd still be friends but I think he still wants me to give him the boyfriend treatment. He's probably afraid that the love I give him now will be gone. It won't be all gone but things will change. I don't think he wants me to treat or look at him as a regular homie. I don't think he wants me to change towards him cause of how close our connection is but little does he know I already am little by little. 

 

Some of my exes I talk to and I'm on good terms with. Others I don't talk to at all. Had to get the police involved with one of them who turned out to be a psycho. Wasn't a good time in my life.

whoa. Psycho as in trying to fight you and stuff even tho y'all weren't together anymore or just the occassional stalking? My homegirl's ex used to stalk her and try to beat her up all the time.

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See that's all i'm trying to find out from my ex. I asked him point blank. Are we done sexually or not and he keeps avoiding answering the question directly cause he knows i'll move on. I told him we'd still be friends but I think he still wants me to give him the boyfriend treatment. He's probably afraid that the love I give him now will be gone. It won't be all gone but things will change. I don't think he wants me to treat or look at him as a regular homie. I don't think he wants me to change towards him cause of how close our connection is but little does he know I already am little by little. 

 

whoa. Psycho as in trying to fight you and stuff even tho y'all weren't together anymore or just the occassional stalking? My homegirl's ex used to stalk her and try to beat her up all the time.

After I broke it off with her she made a fake profile of me on Facebook and harrased my school peers, which caused trouble for me at school, she also harrased people from around the country and left my details on fb so I had people contacting me from around the country hurling abuse. Also threatened family members. Had to get the police involved.
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