JoeJoe Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 What would you do if you found out that your ex hooked up with your friend after knowing the fact y'all are friends or if your friend hooked up with your ex after knowing he's your ex? I'd seriously like to know. It hasn't happened to me but I know what I would do if it ever did Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatOtherFan Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 What would you do if you found out that your ex hooked up with your friend after knowing the fact y'all are friends or if your friend hooked up with your ex after knowing he's your ex? I'd seriously like to know. It hasn't happened to me but I know what I would do if it ever did Now, HoeHoe... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 It's an ex ... I don't have time to think about some sloppy seconds Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aquaria Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I have 3 friends, none of whom are gay so this doesn't apply to me Also I'm a virgin so Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatOtherFan Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I have 3 friends, none of whom are gay so this doesn't apply to me Also I'm a virgin so Just checking back in to point out some lies. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Now, HoeHoe... :lmao: :lmao: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted July 21, 2014 Author Share Posted July 21, 2014 Now, HoeHoe... Um it hasn't. I don't have a lot of gay friends. Maybe less than 10 all together and maybe about 3-5 I actually hang out with every once in a while. But Lord if it did happen to me It's an ex ... I don't have time to think about some sloppy seconds Game so you telling me you wouldn't mind if your friend did your ex? You don't find that being disloyal? I have 3 friends, none of whom are gay so this doesn't apply to me Also I'm a virgin so We all know you've had more men in your jeans that Levi's. Let's not Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 it's pretty simple, sometimes folks can make it complex, if they're really your friend, they will at least speak on it to you before...I can say from watching others do this that it doesn't work out someone gets pissed, my friend was so hurt to find out someone we knew was basically fucking their ex on the low from all of us.....they needless to say killed the friendship we had with that person. Feelings get caught up and folks feel betrayed.....besides who wants to run up after every other dude? Esp dudes you cool with....that's too much...it's easy enough to find a good fuck that aint in yo circle of friends, now are they more than a fuck? probably not ...Norman said it best sloppy seconds indeed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 It depends on the ex and how much time has passed. If it's one of the ones I ended on fairly good terms with then they can have each other and no harm's done. They may be better suited for each other. However, if it's an ex who majorly fucked me over and they knew about it then the friendship is done. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatOtherFan Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 :lmao: :lmao: We all know it has. HoeHoe is trying to ask it in a roundabout kind of way. lol Um it hasn't. I don't have a lot of gay friends. Maybe less than 10 all together and maybe about 3-5 I actually hang out with every once in a while. But Lord if it did happen to me You'd be in jail? lol I wouldn't give it that much energy. I think I would be mad at the friend though. I would be like "Why are going after what I've had and got rid of?" lol 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted July 21, 2014 Author Share Posted July 21, 2014 We all know it has. HoeHoe is trying to ask it in a roundabout kind of way. lol You'd be in jail? lol I wouldn't give it that much energy. I think I would be mad at the friend though. I would be like "Why are going after what I've had and got rid of?" lol No i'm serious it hasn't. I'm not trying to ask indirectly either cause if it happened to me i'd say it and then tell you what I did after I found out I'm just thinking about letting him and a few of few gay friends that I do have that if I ever find out they hooked up behind my back to get ready cause i'ma fight somebody. I'ma fight him, or the friend, or both of them. To me i'd give it that much energy. 2 people that I love doing something like that behind my back is crossing the line so I figure if you're that dirty or disloyal that i'ma just give you a heads up. No we ain't together but if your friend did that I think they'd sleep with your husband too if you were married. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 Game so you telling me you wouldn't mind if your friend did your ex? You don't find that being disloyal? Disloyal? No.. My friend's sex lives are none of my business.. This isn't a gang.. It's a friendship... I tend to stay out of friend's bedroom business.. It's none of mine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted July 21, 2014 Author Share Posted July 21, 2014 Disloyal? No.. My friend's sex lives are none of my business.. This isn't a gang.. It's a friendship... I tend to stay out of friend's bedroom business.. It's none of mine I said your ex and your friend. If you don't mind that then I see it as you and your ex didn't have a real relationship to begin with if you don't mind him sleeping with your friends or vice versa. Just my opinion. They can sleep with whoever else they want cause that's none of my business but when you're meddling with someone or something important from my past that I made part of my life for however long you make it my business. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trackboy Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I wouldn't be happy if it's like an ex ex.. like someone I was emotionally involved with. If I was someone I just had sex with then I probably wouldn't care. A lot of community property running around out there. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted July 21, 2014 Author Share Posted July 21, 2014 I wouldn't be happy if it's like an ex ex.. like someone I was emotionally involved with. If I was someone I just had sex with then I probably wouldn't care. A lot of community property running around out there. Yeah that's what i'm saying. Someone I was emotionally involved with. I don't care if my friends had sex with another friend I had sex with cause all we were were friends who had sex lol. I'm talking about an ex ex like you said and considered each other bfs. That will indeed get somebody punched or put on blast to everyone. Most likely punched Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I said your ex and your friend. If you don't mind that then I see it as you and your ex didn't have a real relationship to begin with if you don't mind him sleeping with your friends or vice versa. Just my opinion. They can sleep with whoever else they want cause that's none of my business but when you're meddling with someone or something important from my past that I made part of my life for however long you make it my business.I know what you said and I stand by what I said.. An ex is an ex.. They're no longer of importance Granted if it were in a 6 month period of a break up then you're right and I would be upset and probably cut my friend off.. But if it were my ex from 2008.. who cares 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I know what you said and I stand by what I said.. An ex is an ex.. They're no longer of importance Granted if it were in a 6 month period of a break up then you're right and I would be upset and probably cut my friend off.. But if it were my ex from 2008.. who cares time matters too, at some point we get over folks they get over you, rarely the same time for both parties someone usually likes the other more, but it happens and you move on I gotta say my first love, also my longest relationship to date, we haven't seen nor spoken in years, but inside I hope he's happy and that includes love, of course that relationship was built on being together not just our sexual attraction Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I said your ex and your friend. If you don't mind that then I see it as you and your ex didn't have a real relationship to begin with if you don't mind him sleeping with your friends or vice versa. Just my opinion. They can sleep with whoever else they want cause that's none of my business but when you're meddling with someone or something important from my past that I made part of my life for however long you make it my business. who are these people you meet that would do this though? I don't keep too many folks around me cause people are scandalous, but to have "friends" fucking your exs is ratchet as hell you should be in a place where you don't except people in your life that get down like that, if this kinda thing is around you it says something about you too, we are the company we keep Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 No i'm serious it hasn't. I'm not trying to ask indirectly either cause if it happened to me i'd say it and then tell you what I did after I found out I'm just thinking about letting him and a few of few gay friends that I do have that if I ever find out they hooked up behind my back to get ready cause i'ma fight somebody. I'ma fight him, or the friend, or both of them. To me i'd give it that much energy. 2 people that I love doing something like that behind my back is crossing the line so I figure if you're that dirty or disloyal that i'ma just give you a heads up. No we ain't together but if your friend did that I think they'd sleep with your husband too if you were married. you shouldn't be pouring energy into the past anyway, if they're you're ex you keep it moving, I can say when I have seen this happen, no one ever fought it out they simply cut that person out their lives, as you mature with time, you realize your time and energy are too valuable to waste on anything that doesn't get you somewhere...so they fucking? Why you wanna fight someone? Fuck that, keep it pushing let them do them, I don't make any big announcement nor explanation when I cut someone out, because they usually not that important anyway...you need to look at how you define "friends" that word is something I don't use too loosely 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted July 21, 2014 Author Share Posted July 21, 2014 who are these people you meet that would do this though? I don't keep too many folks around me cause people are scandalous, but to have "friends" fucking your exs is ratchet as hell you should be in a place where you don't except people in your life that get down like that, if this kinda thing is around you it says something about you too, we are the company we keep Why are you saying "who are these people?" I said for the 3rd time it hasn't happened to me lol. I never keep scandalous people around me. My str8 friends have been more scandalous to me than the gay ones and actually none of the gay ones have been scandalous to me. The str8 ones that were scandalous i'm cordial with them but we don't hang out anymore. Since I don't have to worry about any str8 friends hooking up with my ex then there's no problem. If it's an ex I didn't care about or still hang out with I probably wouldn't care. I'd still think it was dirty. you shouldn't be pouring energy into the past anyway, if they're you're ex you keep it moving, I can say when I have seen this happen, no one ever fought it out they simply cut that person out their lives, as you mature with time, you realize your time and energy are too valuable to waste on anything that doesn't get you somewhere...so they fucking? Why you wanna fight someone? Fuck that, keep it pushing let them do them, I don't make any big announcement nor explanation when I cut someone out, because they usually not that important anyway...you need to look at how you define "friends" that word is something I don't use too loosely Nah you just don't keep it moving. Y'all don't stay in contact with y'alls exes so I can see where y'all coming from but I on the other hand as I said earlier have gotten closer to him after we broke up. I'm the first guy he's ever brought around his fam. His gay cousins know he's gay but his mom doesn't but she told me a few days ago. "My son's name is JoeJoe too." I was like "Oh yeah?" and she was like "Yeah I think you know my son." and I was like "How do you know I know him?" and she was like "Yeah I saw you two talking one day." That's when I told her "Yeah we hang out sometimes." This ain't just some guy who I messed with a few times and we just cut it off. This ain't somebody that one day we just decided to "Yeah let's say we're bfs" and not have a real relationship. This was a real relationship that had love, fights (not physically), bad arguments where we cussed each other out and in the morning he's sleeping with his head on my chest. All of the friends I have i've been knowing for years. I'm not talking about aquaintances. If it was an aquaintance who slept with my ex I probably wouldn't care but a good friend would deserve a good ass whooping. If you grown and mature enough to sleep with your good friend's ex then you're grown and mature enough to deal with the consequences. I'm not here for the "older means you shouldn't fight". There's people of all ages that do stuff that deserves an ass whoopin. So really my ex is not part of my past he's still in the present since we stay in contact and still hang out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 time matters too, at some point we get over folks they get over you, rarely the same time for both parties someone usually likes the other more, but it happens and you move on I gotta say my first love, also my longest relationship to date, we haven't seen nor spoken in years, but inside I hope he's happy and that includes love, of course that relationship was built on being together not just our sexual attraction So hypothetically speaking, if a current friend had sex with him, let's say, this past weekend.. How would you react? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kishi Posted July 21, 2014 Share Posted July 21, 2014 I'm sure it's happened. I know too many people and I have a lot of friends. I do a lot of socializing and community work here in South Florida, so even though there's a lot of people that live here, we all know each other one way or another, so there's a 90% chance that everyone I meet or befriend has slept with someone I date. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 So hypothetically speaking, if a current friend had sex with him, let's say, this past weekend.. How would you react? How long ago did I break up with the ex? What was it like? I mean did we end on a sour note? Was it a bitch I didn't care for to begin with and thus we not together? I want to be able to answer your question but its so many variables at play. Like one dude I dated for all of a month we work together now, and I don't give a fuck who he do friend or otherwise, we weren't that into one another, it wasn't this hot relationship. Now some dudes I did date after I got over it I would want them to be happy. But that's not what you want to hear, you want to hear how I would react to a dude fucking my ex and I didn't know about it....well he's my ex, and since you decided to run up behind me you can get the boot too....Im not gonna fight you about it but deuces. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 I'm sure it's happened. I know too many people and I have a lot of friends. I do a lot of socializing and community work here in South Florida, so even though there's a lot of people that live here, we all know each other one way or another, so there's a 90% chance that everyone I meet or befriend has slept with someone I date. THAT^^ the circle/degrees of separation have seemingly gotten quite small..so it increases the chances 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted July 22, 2014 Share Posted July 22, 2014 But that's not what you want to hear, you want to hear how I would react to a dude fucking my ex and I didn't know about it....well he's my ex, and since you decided to run up behind me you can get the boot too....Im not gonna fight you about it but deuces. So you still have feelings for him Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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