bu. Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 And not in an open relationship. Basically he or she is sneaking behind their partners back. Would you be the Olivia to the Fitz? Would you have sex with them if you knew they were sneaking on someone? Or would you refuse? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 I'd refuse. That's disrespectful to whomever they're in a relationship with. If you're so unhappy with someone that you'd be willing to betray their trust, then leave the relationship. Cheating is low and unnecessary. Relationships with a cheating partner and "other" person hardly ever work out anyway even if they leave their original partner. How can you trust someone who was so willing to betray someone else's to be with you? Messy situations all around. Not interested. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 And not in an open relationship. Basically he or she is sneaking behind their partners back. Would you be the Olivia to the Fitz? Would you have sex with them if you knew they were sneaking on someone? Or would you refuse? So cheating people? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 Its really no good, we been here, I had a thread on this very topic ....its better to find your own self respect and not fool around with people that use you for sex Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aquaria Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 Yeah I'm not that hard up for dick to get involved in that mess. And I have too mush respect to be the other woman That being said I could see it happening as a 1 night stand if I didn't know they weren't single Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 Its really no good, we been here, I had a thread on this very topic ....its better to find your own self respect and not fool around with people that use you for sex Glad you learned something Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 Back to the topic at hand.. It's cool to be that other person when your young, dumb, full of cum.. But when you're 30+.. Stoppit I will not dive in my personal life tho.. I think what I said is enough 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aquaria Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 Back to the topic at hand.. It's cool to be that other person when your young, dumb, full of cum.. But when you're 30+.. Stoppit I will not dive in my personal life tho.. I think what I said is enough So you did it in your 20s Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted October 27, 2014 Author Share Posted October 27, 2014 So you did it in your 20s Kii Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 hmm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kidfresh832 Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 I'd refuse. That's disrespectful to whomever they're in a relationship with. If you're so unhappy with someone that you'd be willing to betray their trust, then leave the relationship. Cheating is low and unnecessary. Relationships with a cheating partner and "other" person hardly ever work out anyway even if they leave their original partner. How can you trust someone who was so willing to betray someone else's to be with you? Messy situations all around. Not interested. Not only is it disrespectful to the partner of the person you are cheating with. It is disrespectful to yourself. If you cant respect yourself enough to get someone who is available and wants to get with you while they are single you have issues imo. Cheating is lame and causes unnecessary problems. If they really wanted to get with you they would make themselves single and end the previous relationship. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 So you did it in your 20s I'm still in my 20s Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 Not only is it disrespectful to the partner of the person you are cheating with. It is disrespectful to yourself. If you cant respect yourself enough to get someone who is available and wants to get with you while they are single you have issues imo. Cheating is lame and causes unnecessary problems. If they really wanted to get with you they would make themselves single and end the previous relationship. But what if you don't want to be in a relationship you just want bOOty [/devil's Advocate] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted October 27, 2014 Share Posted October 27, 2014 But what if you don't want to be in a relationship you just want bOOty [/devil's Advocate] If you're single, find someone else single. If you're not single and wanna sleep around, leave the relationship then sleep around. You can find single people everywhere who are willing to either be a one night stand and/or fuck buddy. No need to sleep with someone's partner or cheat on your partner. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 If you're single, find someone else single. If you're not single and wanna sleep around, leave the relationship then sleep around. You can find single people everywhere who are willing to either be a one night stand and/or fuck buddy. No need to sleep with someone's partner or cheat on your partner. I think it's one of those things you have to go thru It's easier preaching against something you haven't been thru [/DA] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 I think it's one of those things you have to go thru It's easier preaching against something you haven't been thru [/DA] Not quite. In some situations, sure, but in this one you can know better without having to compromise yourself. It's not complicated to know from the start that it's not worth being hurt or causing someone to be hurt least of all if you're with someone you supposed to love. No sex is worth that pain and it honestly does you no favors except a quick nut. Just leave and do your business being single. No strings, no pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 But what if you don't want to be in a relationship you just want bOOty [/devil's Advocate] i'm kinda on the fence with this. If it's a random person then more than likely it's a no for me cause I have no feelings attached so it wouldn't be hard for me to decline them which i've done more than a few times before. If it's a good friend or my ex i'd probably do it knowing that we'll always remain friends before and after their relationship 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Not quite. In some situations, sure, but in this one you can know better without having to compromise yourself. It's not complicated to know from the start that it's not worth being hurt or causing someone to be hurt least of all if you're with someone you supposed to love. No sex is worth that pain and it honestly does you no favors except a quick nut. Just leave and do your business being single. No strings, no pain It doesn't go down like that, especially with dudes and gay men, IMO many gay men are just plain trifling, dude might get with you to fuck around and aint told you jack about himself nor who he with, ya'll just getting down, so you think its cool, you not asking for more than what was put on the table from jump, so he comes clean and tells you he with someone after you been screwing for however long....Im not saying the shit aint stank, all I am saying is its so easy to preach what someone coulda shoulda woulda....in life some lessons come naturally, others you learn just by seeing others go thru the dumb shit, and some lessons, you only learn from your own experiences. and of course everyone assumes that everyone doesn't have some issues to work thru, because to admit you have fault would be too human I guess...I just can't get with the mentality that folks here act like they above so much, yet single as fuck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 It doesn't go down like that, especially with dudes and gay men, IMO many gay men are just plain trifling, dude might get with you to fuck around and aint told you jack about himself nor who he with, ya'll just getting down, so you think its cool, you not asking for more than what was put on the table from jump, so he comes clean and tells you he with someone after you been screwing for however long....Im not saying the shit aint stank, all I am saying is its so easy to preach what someone coulda shoulda woulda....in life some lessons come naturally, others you learn just by seeing others go thru the dumb shit, and some lessons, you only learn from your own experiences. I'm not saying that it's easy to avoid if you're in the dark about someone's relationship status from the start. If they're lying to you and their partner, then they are the one to blame and they have the issue. They need to fix something in themselves. I'm talking about what the OP is saying when you know ahead of time that someone is in a relationship before anything ever goes down and you sleep with them anyway, or if you're the one in a relationship and are out fucking around behind your partner's back. In that situation, regardless of which person you are, you have control of your actions and therefore the blame. If you're involved or know someone is involved, then you know you shouldn't be screwing around. If you're unhappy in your relationship then leave. If someone is in a relationship, try find someone who's single. You can't always be 100% sure what you're dealing with from the start, but you can do the right thing if you know the truth. There's no need to intentionally ruin someone's relationship. That person's partner did nothing to you. Why intentionally disrespect them? If you know what's up and you go for it anyway like "Well if it wasn't me, it would be someone else" then you are still a part of the problem and not the solution. Have some damn integrity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 I think it's one of those things you have to go thru It's easier preaching against something you haven't been thru [/DA] it's all dixie dust and hearts with single people having chance meetings at coffee shops and falling in love 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 I'm not saying that it's easy to avoid if you're in the dark about someone's relationship status from the start. If they're lying to you and their partner, then they are the one to blame and they have the issue. They need to fix something in themselves. I'm talking about what the OP is saying when you know ahead of time that someone is in a relationship before anything ever goes down and you sleep with them anyway, or if you're the one in a relationship and are out fucking around behind your partner's back. In that situation, regardless of which person you are, you have control of your actions and therefore the blame. If you're involved or know someone is involved, then you know you shouldn't be screwing around. If you're unhappy in your relationship then leave. If someone is in a relationship, try find someone who's single. You can't always be 100% sure what you're dealing with, but you can do the right thing if you know the truth. There's no need to intentionally ruin someone's relationship. That person's partner did nothing to you. Why intentionally disrespect them? If you know what's up and you go for it anyway like "Well if it wasn't me, it would be someone else" then you are still a part of the problem and not the solution. Have some damn integrity. I hear you mommy, but what Im saying is shit out here is real, and its ugly its grimy, you got mofos that I truly believe are sex addicts, dudes that are well into their 40s still hooking up, dudes that can't nuture a real relationship because they don't know how or refuse to bother, I asked a dude I used to fuck around with who was single the entire time, so no guilt there, if he finally had a bf when he contacted me, and he said "aint nobody got time for dat" and I was like dude you in yo 40s now you just gone fuck yo way thru life? I just wish sometimes people understood the deep rooted psychological dynamics in the lives of gay men. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 the only thing I learned here from so many, is if you respect yourself enough, and you truly believe you're worth it, someone single and worth your time will be available. Otherwise you selling yourself short, and as Rocco said "if your only aspiration in life is to be a sideline" think about that....a sideline? a piece of meat for someone's pleasure when they say so and not when you want it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 I hear you mommy, but what Im saying is shit out here is real, and its ugly its grimy, you got mofos that I truly believe are sex addicts, dudes that are well into their 40s still hooking up, dudes that can't nuture a real relationship because they don't know how or refuse to bother, I asked a dude I used to fuck around with who was single the entire time, so no guilt there, if he finally had a bf when he contacted me, and he said "aint nobody got time for dat" and I was like dude you in yo 40s now you just gone fuck yo way thru life? I just wish sometimes people understood the deep rooted psychological dynamics in the lives of gay men. Sex addiction is a whole other ball game to be addressed. I'm not as well informed on it so I can't comment thoroughly, but I do think you're right and that that's a discussion we need. About people as a whole, really, not just gay men, but in detail about every one. Actual discussions, studies and information about sex in general are a necessity in this country. So many people are still oblivious to the most basic things. There's larger problems, no doubt, but we can start from the basics with what we know already. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 Sex addiction is a whole other ball game to be addressed. I'm not as well informed on it so I can't comment thoroughly, but I do think you're right and that that's a discussion we need. About people as a whole, really, not just gay men, but in detail about every one. Actual discussions, studies and information about sex in general are a necessity in this country. So many people are still oblivious to the most basic things. There's larger problems, no doubt, but we can start from the basics with what we know already. its not that I dont see you, I see you boo, and its not that I disagree, its that I think the whole picture hasn't been explored from a scientific perspective to understand this behavior so people know whats really going on, cause if you watch the news its would seem we some damn freaks, teachers fucking students and all kinda shit going off 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EphraimAdamz Posted October 28, 2014 Share Posted October 28, 2014 If they are in a relationship that's on them. I'm single so I can sleep with whoever I want, whether they are taken or not taken. It's not my job to look after them. If you know you're in a relationship then it's not my duty to slap you on the hand and say "hey stop sucking my dick! aren't you dating someone?!". Answer: Single people sleep with whoever. It's the taken people who need to own up to their own actions. People always wanna point the blame. "Stop texting my wife!".... when it should be "I'm single, how about why is your wife texting me?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.