When was the last time you made a new friend?

[Aquaria]

I made one in the last couple of weeks and it's amazing  

[Bailey]

Ima ask you what kinda friend u made ?   and I can't say I make friends that easy, I can say people seem to like me, but I dont count new faces at work as friends, but I can see they want more

[kidfresh832]

I have been so busy with work I really haven't made what I would call "real life" friends in awhile.  By that I mean yeah I make friends from work etc but there's few from that group I would hang out with on off time.  Don't have much in common other than we work together and can get along at work.

[Kishi]

The word "friend" has a new meaning for me, because my friendships are changing. Most of the people I considered friends are moving, too busy, and have children. So I've been making new friends this year, especially building bonds with my co-workers, and it's been great. 

[Utopia]

I'm terrible at making friends because everyone looks at me and thinks that I'm a stuck up bitch which is far from the truth. 

The weird thing is that every time a friend brings a new person to our circle, that person instantly becomes my friend as well  I don't know why but it's happening every single time I go to the clubs. So  last time I made a friend was last Friday  

Girls love to hang out with me for some reason. 

[Rock & Roll Hall of Game]

 

Girls love to hang out with me for some reason. 

The girls feel safe under a man's eye.. Especially if that man is a homo :shifty:

[Bailey]

The girls feel safe under a man's eye.. Especially if that man is a homo

I dont really like guys like that, Ryan is JUST like this, all of his friends are girls, and its like whose around you teaching you to be a man? His dad died, so I just dont understand a gay guy with no male roles in his life except those he fucking

I mean no offense, and assume nothing, but Ryan is kinda "girly" and often times he thinks he's being a "boss" by acting like a bitch, that shit has made me leave him alone

Edited September 6, 2015 by Bailey

[Rock & Roll Hall of Game]

I whose around you teaching you to be a man? 

that's your problem.. Is it the 1950s? No one has to teach anyone how to be a "man" whatever that means. 

Every male human is a man by definition. The mindset that "manliness" has to be taught is so ancient and only holds back the society. 

What makes a man a "man"? What does he have to be taught? If this nation were full of that mindset, we would be crippled in the world market

[Bailey]

that's your problem.. Is it the 1950s? No one has to teach anyone how to be a "man" whatever that means. 

Every male human is a man by definition. The mindset that "manliness" has to be taught is so ancient and only holds back the society. 

What makes a man a "man"? What does he have to be taught? If this nation were full of that mindset, we would be crippled in the world market

he has no role models that are strong forces guiding him in his life, the results thus far have been amateur porn, and drug rehab. That's not to say if a father were present these things dont happen. What I am saying is there are differences between being a man and being a woman. A woman is taught how to carry herself, how to respect herself, how not to allow others to disrespect her, and often these values are taught by mothers, sister, aunts, whomever is a positive guiding force.

Men/males, need roles models that teach them the reality of this life, I have learned that as a Black man, there are certain forces beyond my control, I can't change what people will think Im about because of my identity, I can do my best to be the best human being I can be, and in part of that is knowing being a man requires I handle myself with strength and resilency never wavering in my resolve to be independent. These ideas, came from my father, watching him never need anything from anyone. He had new cars in his 20's, a house, a fulltime job for GM he worked for 30 years. My dad retired at 54 with about 1 million in investments and property and his pension is about 4 grand a month....so yea having a blueprint to follow helps when you're lost in the dark

Edited September 6, 2015 by Bailey

[Aquaria]

If you're flamboyantly gay and effeminate all the male role models in the world won't make a difference. 

[Utopia]

The girls feel safe under a man's eye.. Especially if that man is a homo :shifty:

I see the shade but I ain't  

[Bailey]

If you're flamboyantly gay and effeminate all the male role models in the world won't make a difference. 

Ive met guys that were like that but they had their shit together, they were young but knew what that wanted and went for it.

[Bailey]

If you're flamboyantly gay and effeminate all the male role models in the world won't make a difference. 

its not about changing his demeanor, its about guys like him understanding surrounding yourself with "safe" female friends only and taking on their attributes isnt teaching you shit, they have vaginas, you have a penis, the world differs......I have no issue with some slight effeminate guys, as Ryan is, they usually make the best bottoms and he had good bussy man scented and all

[Rock & Roll Hall of Game]

he has no role models that are strong forces guiding him in his life, the results thus far have been amateur porn, and drug rehab. That's not to say if a father were present these things dont happen. What I am saying is there are differences between being a man and being a woman. A woman is taught how to carry herself, how to respect herself, how not to allow others to disrespect her, and often these values are taught by mothers, sister, aunts, whomever is a positive guiding force.

Men/males, need roles models that teach them the reality of this life, I have learned that as a Black man, there are certain forces beyond my control, I can't change what people will think Im about because of my identity, I can do my best to be the best human being I can be, and in part of that is knowing being a man requires I handle myself with strength and resilency never wavering in my resolve to be independent. These ideas, came from my father, watching him never need anything from anyone. He had new cars in his 20's, a house, a fulltime job for GM he worked for 30 years. My dad retired at 54 with about 1 million in investments and property and his pension is about 4 grand a month....so yea having a blueprint to follow helps when you're lost in the dark

the only difference between a man and a woman is their Privates. That's it. The whole notion that a man has to be this and a woman has to be that is society bullshit

Thats not teaching someone how to be their gender. That's just guiding someone through the toughness of life. Why make it about being Manly? 

[Rock & Roll Hall of Game]

I see the shade but I ain't  

There's no shade silly. Just honesty ^_^

[Bailey]

the only difference between a man and a woman is their Privates. That's it. The whole notion that a man has to be this and a woman has to be that is society bullshit

Thats not teaching someone how to be their gender. That's just guiding someone through the toughness of life. Why make it about being Manly? 

I'll bite bae    if you think as a young Black male in this world gender makes no diferrence, you sir are a fool, and Ive never taken you as one, you are many things but never a fool. We live in a world where your race makes a difference, your gender makes a difference in your life...not saying its right...Im telling you the God damn truth

now take some of my bait do those men and women u speak of live in some make believe bubble outside of the confines of society and all society places on one? NO

Edited September 6, 2015 by Bailey

[Bailey]

the only difference between a man and a woman is their Privates. That's it. The whole notion that a man has to be this and a woman has to be that is society bullshit

Thats not teaching someone how to be their gender. That's just guiding someone through the toughness of life. Why make it about being Manly? 

you can be whoever you are, fem not fem, no fems, whatever do you.....but make sure while you're doing it....you're doing it the best, be a fucking boss if thats what you call yourself doing....but of course I was wrong, he's 21, what the fuck does he know? my point is he doesn't have that, he doesnt have those around him that will be light in the darkness, and he cant even receive them, because he pushes that away....

Edited September 6, 2015 by Bailey

[Rock & Roll Hall of Game]

I'll bite bae    if you think as a young Black male in this world gender makes no diferrence, you sir are a fool, and Ive never taken you as one, you are many things but never a fool. We live in a world where your race makes a difference, your gender makes a difference in your life...not saying its right...Im telling you the God damn truth

Sure.. I never said a person's gender doesn't make a difference but his gender is already set in stone. There's nothing more to teach about his or her own gender. 

This notion that a man should be "a MAN" is holding back certain people. "Oh men don't do that; men do this" only tarnishes the person's opportunities in this world. It limits him or her to not be who they are and to be how others see them. That's not how life should go. If a black person wanted to be a doctor or president, he or she should align themselves and snatch opportunities when it comes. You can attempt to try to "teach" people who to be like some "Big Brother" but the best way to learn, is through experiences. "Give a man a fish, he eats for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime"

 

[Bailey]

Sure.. I never said a person's gender doesn't make a difference but his gender is already set in stone. There's nothing more to teach about his or her own gender. 

This notion that a man should be "a MAN" is holding back certain people. "Oh men don't do that; men do this" only tarnishes the person's opportunities in this world. It limits him or her to not be who they are and to be how others see them. That's not how life should go. If a black person wanted to be a doctor or president, he or she should align themselves and snatch opportunities when it comes. You can attempt to try to "teach" people who to be like some "Big Brother" but the best way to learn, is through experiences. "Give a man a fish, he eats for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime"

 

stop reading there, you sir are wrong there, after that point the only lessons Ive missed are the ones that inform me of my identity, its what Im at 40 still trying to understand, Im Black and gay, and those things mean a lot to my journey in this life no matter all else, but I will read the rest beyond the bold because you're so cute Norma!

[Bailey]

okay you actually had something substantial to say beyond the bold....what I can speak on is what I see, these kids today, have it harder, they have fewer good things informing them and far worst directing them. When I was 21, I had a car, my own place and a job, I didn't rely on others for anything I never considered the thought, I was too busy trying to do better and go to college and finish it......when I was 24, I was working at a job making more money than I ever thought I could, 26, I was driving a brand new convertible....I had my shit together because at the end of the day, It's all about having a good head on your shoulders, I didn't do porn no drugs, hell I wasn't even a drinker I was too busy trying to "act right"

[Rock & Roll Hall of Game]

stop reading there, you sir are wrong there, after that point the only lessons Ive missed are the ones that inform me of my identity, its what Im at 40 still trying to understand, Im Black and gay, and those things mean a lot to my journey in this life no matter all else, but I will read the rest beyond the bold because you're so cute Norma!

That's clearly unique to you. Not to others

No offense. We all can't be Mr. "Straight Edge". And that has nothing to do with the original post about "being a man" (whatever that means outside the literal context). 

[Bailey]

That's clearly unique to you. Not to others

No offense. We all can't be Mr. "Straight Edge". And that has nothing to do with the original post about "being a man" (whatever that means outside the literal context). 

we all differ there's no arguing that....when I spoke of being a man, I think I meant owning the best of who u are, and with people around you completely not like you in identity, good luck with that we need people that inspire us, male and female to be the best we can....some of us arent there

[Rock & Roll Hall of Game]

we all differ there's no arguing that....when I spoke of being a man, I think I meant owning the best of who u are, and with people around you completely not like you in identity, good luck with that we need people that inspire us, male and female to be the best we can....some of us arent there

That's not "being a man" as it is "being the best you can be".. That can apply to men and women. Be the change. 

I agree. Certain people need others to inspire them. But instead of teaching them male chauvinistic characteristics and setting back society, try using better, non-sexist and straightforward phrases like "Being the best you can be" otherwise, what are they learning?