I got a call from his boyfriend yesterday that he passed away earlier in the day. He had been battling an unpredictable ailment for the last few years and it took him. I don’t know how not to personalize this because we were so close, but want to speak on him somehow for those who remember. He was always one of a kind but grew into such an evolved, otherworldly person in his later years away from the forum. Just a beautiful life to behold. I think he started out presenting an older age like I did, but he was younger. He was in his late 20s when he passed. I can’t begin to imagine what his family is going through.
We grew up together in uncharted territory, and the conversations and experiences we shared were far deeper than I’d ever had with any other human before him, save my mother. That relationship kept on and rarely wavered. We grew each other tremendously and I owe so much to him.
So crazy that a shared love of Janet Jackson across an internet forum could bloom something so deep and real. We talked nearly every day for the last 13 years and I can’t wrap my head around the silence. We had gone too long without visiting one another and were plotting a reunion before COVID hit. I can’t begin to express how much I’m going to miss him.