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I remember some years ago I was having anxiety. I guess because the girl I was talking to... I could never "read her" in bed. I'm such a pleaser in bed. I like to bust, but I bust best knowing that your being pleased.

So back to the story... since I couldn't get a read on her for a long time, I would never know if she's truly being pleased. I'd start questioning myself. Watching porn a lot more. Am I doing it right? That anxiety will translate into the bedroom. I wasn't getting as hard. It was taking me longer to cum. I'd get distracted by the thoughts in my head.

So finally I had a one night fling with a different girl..... shorty messaged me for weeks. I wanted to hit it, but I was so caught up in the anxiety in my head. She wasn't budging though. She wanted the dick and she wanted it now.

So she comes over. Drops right to her knees... Woa? What the? That was new.

She told me that she only came to please me. That I didn't have to do anything. Just sit back and let it happen. Maaaan.... when she patiently gave me a hand job until I was hard (cause it was taking a while)..... put the condom on for me. She had her little moisturizer, lubed and stroked it some more for good measure........ Mind you these are all things that the guy usually has to do for himself, while the girl "Waits".

She talked so dirty while she did this too. It was the first time I could just relax. Not have to "prepare" and have everything "ready/in place". I finally just let out a sigh and let everything go. She politely straddled me and started riding the dick. Negro I got so hard and busted so quick...

She plopped up. Put her clothes on and went on her marry way. I felt so used lmao.gif But my anxiety after that went away. I learned that I don't have to always be the pleaser. Trying to please 24/7, or vice versa can be stressful and that's not what the sex is about. We get tied to these roles, and "duties". Once we stop worrying about what the other person thinks is when the sex will be at it's best.

That was just the source of my anxiety though. Everyone could be different.

well yea I think about whether they are being pleased, so I guess no I am not selfish...but I don't always have anxiety, sometimes a man is just a man and when he gotta bust he gonna bust...I have had a few times hooking up that ass was just that...a piece of ass.....I guess I'm not selfish enough but I know my one fuck buddy was always into it, he was built like a truck and handsome he would be rock hard riding me and leaking, one time he leaked so much I swore he had cum...he was QUICK to tell me "oh no that's just pre-cum" maybe it is a confidence thing because he was the same guy to tell me "you're to in your head" and we fucked often back in the day....I mean often.
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Um no, that's rude. I'd feel too dirty and shy so that would never work.

I did it at a strip club once though. I guess I still have to be in a sexual environment. Or have visual stimulation

too dirty? well I guess I won't tell the story of me fucking a supervisor for Chrysler, we didn't work together but he had an all shaved body and it was built...after we fucked for a good hour, when i drove home all I could smell was sex....I reached down into my pants driving back, and rubbed my dick and I could smell the sex on my fingers, I came hard driving....something told me I shoulda stayed a lil longer :).....oh well speaking of peen :wave:
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^ Testosterone is affected by a variety of different things. Stress included (and there are many kinds of stress).

I like mine dry with porn lube disturbs "thangs"

Well I have dry skin, so lube makes both my hand and penis comfortable. If I did it dry, it would be a painful, ashy mess!

But everyone has their different likes/dislikes and journey with their body.

U don't always need lube or lotion. I've busted hands free just by thinking really hard. I've busted from dry humping...... how else have i busted...... oh I busted just by massaging my balls.

Dry humping works for me. Not thinking a lot or rubbing balls.

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it took forever to beat my dick,,,,I'm just not that horny...maybe I need them testosterone patches see what happen then

i have moments like that

I remember spending close to 2 hours jerking off. I was horny but for whatever reason, my dick wasnt getting hard

I thought that probably I broke my dick or something

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Does anyone else have a high sex drive. Like after you cum you want to go again, and again and again?

i think I have met my match with this one guy. we went 3 times in a row and we would of gone a 4th but we had things to do

Other guys are satisfied after going one time. But me its like I have to keep going

I think I might be a nympho

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What's the most (that you actually counted) amount of times you masterbated in 24hrs,

AND what's your freak number from 1-10 (1 basically ONLY Missionary, 10 means you'll literally try ANYTHING that wont kill you........I didnt say won't hurt you lol)

*You team V members can contribute to those answers too lol *

The most I've........"taken care" of myself in 1 day is 5 times..........long day and ALOT of free time....and water lol

And my freak number is like a 7-8, because I'll go far, I'll go very far, with guys and gals, but there are things I won't do, like I don't want to bottom, thats kind of about it, my ass aint on the menu lol. I feel theres more to that I won't do but thats like the biggest 1 lol.

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I think I have gone maybe 5 times or more in a day, I had an ex back in the 90s he could cum on command so he would just cum and cum and it would never stop, we had a contest, I was at 2 he was like at 5 times having bust....him was so horny....as for freak level...depends how much vodka? :coffee: I would say I am actually kinda conservative, I don't believe in open relationships, I don't like threesomes because two always like each other more and therefore one is kinda side action. I don't like toys, I don't like my ass played with ever, some white dude here stay looking for a black top he can eat out, I said yep keep dat search going :coffee: I do like the idea of being with one person in a stable relationship and exploring things with each other. I had an ex we went to the all naked stripper bar in Canada where they can take it all off across the border, hell by the time we got home I was so horny I fucked him something ridiculous, he said "I should take you there more often"

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Im not a fan of threesomes either, BUT for me it's only because I like giving all of my sexual attention to 1 at a time, could I handle 2, I think so but I'd much rather give my all to 1....and maybe have another person watch....or I don't mind watching while 2 go at it.

Im also fine with open relationships, as long as it's respectful and not a game. Im with Cherelle's 2nd verse in her song Affair (in fact it describes me in that situation perfectly) "See I want respect, so I'll state ma case, cause baby I wont take, all yo business in ma face, so hear me loud and clear, don't matter if ya flirt, as long as your discreet, and make sure nobody's hurt like me, AFFFFFFAAAIIIIRRRR I DON'T NEED COMMITMENT, I DON'T NEED SOME MAN TO TELL ME HOW TO FEEL, AFFFAAAAAIIIIRRRR, I DON'T WANT NO PROBLEMS, ALL I REALLY NEED IS TO BE CLOSE TO YOU" lol Im sorry I just love that song and them lyrics lol. But thats almost me, can I be monogamous? YES, in fact it's easy for me, but would I prefer to be in a open relationship over it, hells yes. I can make it work, it's got to be a 50/50 eye to eye deal in order for those to work, and it's not for everybody....but it's alright wit me

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Im not a fan of threesomes either, BUT for me it's only because I like giving all of my sexual attention to 1 at a time, could I handle 2, I think so but I'd much rather give my all to 1....and maybe have another person watch....or I don't mind watching while 2 go at it.

Im also fine with open relationships, as long as it's respectful and not a game. Im with Cherelle's 2nd verse in her song Affair (in fact it describes me in that situation perfectly) "See I want respect, so I'll state ma case, cause baby I wont take, all yo business in ma face, so hear me loud and clear, don't matter if ya flirt, as long as your discreet, and make sure nobody's hurt like me, AFFFFFFAAAIIIIRRRR I DON'T NEED COMMITMENT, I DON'T NEED SOME MAN TO TELL ME HOW TO FEEL, AFFFAAAAAIIIIRRRR, I DON'T WANT NO PROBLEMS, ALL I REALLY NEED IS TO BE CLOSE TO YOU" lol Im sorry I just love that song and them lyrics lol. But thats almost me, can I be monogamous? YES, in fact it's easy for me, but would I prefer to be in a open relationship over it, hells yes. I can make it work, it's got to be a 50/50 eye to eye deal in order for those to work, and it's not for everybody....but it's alright wit me

GET ALL THE WAY THE FUCK OUT....DAT SONG IS MUH MUTHAFUCKING JAM....HELLS YES! :yahoo: remember the video? She did all them old school dances

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GET ALL THE WAY THE FUCK OUT....DAT SONG IS MUH MUTHAFUCKING JAM....HELLS YES! :yahoo: remember the video? She did all them old school dances

YESSSSSSSSSSSSS ITS MA JAM, I love the song and video, it's my fave by her, and Im still waiting on some official confirmation that thats Janet singing the "AFFAIR" line and backup, but I'll still just assume it is. But yea this song gives me LIFE

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What's the most (that you actually counted) amount of times you masterbated in 24hrs,

AND what's your freak number from 1-10 (1 basically ONLY Missionary, 10 means you'll literally try ANYTHING that wont kill you........I didnt say won't hurt you lol)

*You team V members can contribute to those answers too lol *

The most I've........"taken care" of myself in 1 day is 5 times..........long day and ALOT of free time....and water lol

And my freak number is like a 7-8, because I'll go far, I'll go very far, with guys and gals, but there are things I won't do, like I don't want to bottom, thats kind of about it, my ass aint on the menu lol. I feel theres more to that I won't do but thats like the biggest 1 lol.

I have J/O 8 times in one day. But that was when I lost my virginity. I like how my booty felt afterwards. Slight pain yet pleasurable

I would say I am a 9

Now it would easier to post the things I wouldnt do...because it would be a short list (WS, scat, fisting, BB)

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okay so I lubed my dick up this morning, I had to find the lube I kept for my "fun" days in a bag in my closet....it does increase sensation...but it's soooo slippery...awwww memories I was a great top I made sure I had all my supplies, condoms, flavored lube packets, and the best lube available a 20 dollar bottle of "Eros" so good you could lube the space shuttle with it :wub:

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I've been looking for this paticular lube that I got at a pleasure party like 6 years ago. Its called "Slippery stuff". I swear it was the best lube ever!!! :clapping:

It would last for at least 30 mins without re-applying and then it washed off with such eas. I got one bottle for like 30 dollars, and I could never find it again. <_<

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I've been looking for this paticular lube that I got at a pleasure party like 6 years ago. Its called "Slippery stuff". I swear it was the best lube ever!!! :clapping:

It would last for at least 30 mins without re-applying and then it washed off with such eas. I got one bottle for like 30 dollars, and I could never find it again. <_<

gun oil is good, I swear by Eros, black bottle, not sticky at all very slippery...best thing cumming :)
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I've been looking for this paticular lube that I got at a pleasure party like 6 years ago. Its called "Slippery stuff". I swear it was the best lube ever!!! :clapping:

It would last for at least 30 mins without re-applying and then it washed off with such eas. I got one bottle for like 30 dollars, and I could never find it again. <_<

http://www.drugstore.com/slippery-stuff-gel-personal-lubricant-water-soluble/qxp82255

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We're eye to eye on that 1. Phone sex in general for me, like I can only do it and really enjoy it if I've at least had a convo with the person Im talking to about something besides sex, and I gotta know what they & their body looks like, Like I got the fantasy/imagination for it, but for me to be pleased it has to be a bit of reality to it. Now skype..........thats a whole nother thing lol

I like phone sex...havent done it in a while though. Its just a way to get my rocks off quickly

I used to do it as a job 12 years ago. it was ok but some of the stuff people were into was just stank

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I like phone sex...havent done it in a while though. Its just a way to get my rocks off quickly

I used to do it as a job 12 years ago. it was ok but some of the stuff people were into was just stank

I knew one guy a long time ago we would do phone, and he would make me sooooooooo horny...otherwise hang up the phone :coffee:
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I like phone sex...havent done it in a while though. Its just a way to get my rocks off quickly

I used to do it as a job 12 years ago. it was ok but some of the stuff people were into was just stank

hmm.........I'll keep that in mind :shifty:

LOL WOW thats hilarious, I kind of imagined thatd be a problem, but shit the way I am it's as long as I don't gotta do I'll pretend Im into it lol

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