Aquaria Posted April 28, 2014 Share Posted April 28, 2014 Well if self-loathing is the issue you first have to learn to be patient with yourself. Life is full of successes and failures with people who have both good and bad to them. From this one shouldn't allow themselves to only focus too hard in either direction. If all you're doing is focusing on any mistakes you might have made, gently but surely force yourself to remember your strengths. Are you really only taking a couple steps forward or does it seem that way from this current view of yourself? It's easy to get frustrated with yourself like this especially if you're a perfectionist, but even perfectionists eventually have to accept our own humanity. Even if you're right in taking only a couple steps forward, they could very well be worthwhile steps and the ones back only minor. Every bit of growth counts. It's hard to see it day to day, but the longer you do the difference is clear. I hadn't thought about it that way, that the steps forward could be "bigger strides" than the steps back. I feel like I've been trying for so long (with things in general, not just weight) and end up in the same spot... But I know I'm just tired and letting the failures or missteps block me from seeing the overall progress I've made. Thank you Reyna 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aquaria Posted April 28, 2014 Share Posted April 28, 2014 Same. I've been so depressed for the past two years and it has really taken a toll on my eating habits. I gained so much weight freshman year from stress eating. You just have to keep yourself busy and take your mind off of it. My escape is Netflix. I binge watch and I don't feel bad about it because it takes my mind off of the depressing thoughts that constantly plague me. Also, I try to surround myself with healthy food instead of junk. I literally force myself to crave apples and other healthy stuff. I'll be here for you if you ever need help. It's tough but you'll eventually learn how to manage it... sort of LOL. And it's also important to remember that one bad meal will not make you gain weight. You can always start over so don't get discouraged. The last part of what you said is one of my biggest problems... I tend to go off the deep end with just one indescretion. That's really at the heart if the problem, trying to find that balance. It's really hard to kick old habits but I guess I just need to keep trying. And thank you too, I appreciate it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 I hadn't thought about it that way, that the steps forward could be "bigger strides" than the steps back. I feel like I've been trying for so long (with things in general, not just weight) and end up in the same spot... But I know I'm just tired and letting the failures or missteps block me from seeing the overall progress I've made. Thank you Reyna Right. It's easy to see it as minor if you're just looking day to day. Widen your gaze to months, a year, or more, and you can really see your progress. And always be patient with yourself. You're welcome, Roc *hugs* 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aquaria Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Right. It's easy to see it as minor if you're just looking day to day. Widen your gaze to months, a year, or more, and you can really see your progress. And always be patient with yourself. You're welcome, Roc *hugs* *stifles tears* I got this Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 *stifles tears* I got this Awww, don't cry. That's the spirit! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kennita Jo. Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 I went on a seven-year health binge, lost 125 pounds and have since been into body-building. It's an incredible release but after a promotion and moving in with bae I picked up some of my old stress-eating habits again. My workouts are too intense for me to be so particular about my food choices anymore though. Here's an update photo. Hopefully Janet would be proud of me. #GetOnIt You look fantastic! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted April 30, 2014 Share Posted April 30, 2014 I weighed myself last night and I've lost 3 kilos . I wasn't even trying Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Escapade Posted April 30, 2014 Share Posted April 30, 2014 The last part of what you said is one of my biggest problems... I tend to go off the deep end with just one indescretion. That's really at the heart if the problem, trying to find that balance. It's really hard to kick old habits but I guess I just need to keep trying. And thank you too, I appreciate it No problem! That was one of the biggest lessons I had to learn. It was so easy for me to get discouraged after one bad meal. That's why all of my health plans used to fail cause I would just give up. It helps to look at it as a lifestyle. Realistically, I'm not going to completely cut out pizza, fries, burgers, etc in my lifetime. Sometimes I'm going to indulge but that doesn't eradicate all of my progress. It's a hard process but it really starts with the right mind set. I went on a seven-year health binge, lost 125 pounds and have since been into body-building. It's an incredible release but after a promotion and moving in with bae I picked up some of my old stress-eating habits again. My workouts are too intense for me to be so particular about my food choices anymore though. You look fantastic! Thank you! 125 lbs is a lot! Congrats! What kind of work outs do you all like to do at the gym? I personally tend to stick with the bicycle. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Escapade Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 How are you guys doing? I'm at a plateau =( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EphraimAdamz Posted September 29, 2014 Author Share Posted September 29, 2014 How are you guys doing? I'm at a plateau =( Just 10 push ups, 10 sit ups every morning and im good Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted September 29, 2014 Share Posted September 29, 2014 How are you guys doing? I'm at a plateau =( How much strength-training do you do? Increasing that helped me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Escapade Posted September 29, 2014 Share Posted September 29, 2014 How much strength-training do you do? Increasing that helped me. Virtually none lol, which sucks cause I'm so busy. I think I just need to be stricter on my diet. I've been a little reckless with my eating habits. I think this last 15 lbs is the hardest to lose. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted September 29, 2014 Share Posted September 29, 2014 Virtually none lol, which sucks cause I'm so busy. I think I just need to be stricter on my diet. I've been a little reckless with my eating habits. I think this last 15 lbs is the hardest to lose. Possibly so. In talking to my cousin (he's a trainer), he told me the best way to lose way to lose weight and stay within your goal is managing your diet, yes, but also by doing strength training. Cardio will help you drop, but you lose fat and muscle in the process. Strength-training helps you build the muscle and burn the fat only and keep it off. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Escapade Posted September 29, 2014 Share Posted September 29, 2014 Possibly so. In talking to my cousin (he's a trainer), he told me the best way to lose way to lose weight and stay within your goal is managing your diet, yes, but also by doing strength training. Cardio will help you drop, but you lose fat and muscle in the process. Strength-training helps you build the muscle and burn the fat only and keep it off. What kind of strength training do you all recommend? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted September 29, 2014 Share Posted September 29, 2014 What kind of strength training do you all recommend? I'd start out simple and work your way up since you don't lift much now. I did the version 2 on this site since I had already done at least some lifting before. You might want to start with the first version at least on the first couple days. http://www.aworkoutroutine.com/the-beginner-weight-training-workout-routine/ 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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