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  1. I was rubbishing the idea before but its actually an interesting concept whether there's no music or not. Id be bummed about not getting a 2hr slot though

    It's been a while since she's properly toured Europe though. For the festivals, a 2 hour slot is a reach. At least one hour is good enough, cut out the medleys and it'll be a good setlist.

    Cities like London, Dublin, Paris, Berlin, Amsterdam, Brussels, Barcelona, Zurich, Vienna, and Copenhagen can be theaters with the full show, while she can do festivals in UK, France, Germany, Italy, Poland, Portugal (Rock in Rio Lisboa), and other countries. Summer time has a TON of huge festivals.

  2. and viruses <_< I like the layout and content but the pops up etc are annoying. I wonder why so many on that particular site?

    There was a crackdown on a lot of videos in 2016 and for some reason, there started to be a lot of pop ups and ads on there around the same time. 

  3. I'm very, very upset with what's happening to her. Just seems like R&B artists will always deal with some sort of pushback. 

    I don't think she knows what direction she wants to go in. But there is a market for her. Wish she could find the support on another label, perhaps independent with a push from influential artists in the industry. Her mixtapes are top notch quality and she can perform, so she should probably keep performing, releasing music, and do live shows. Don't need mainstream success and validation to be great. Book those shows gurl.

  4. Yup you are 100% correct. He has hurt and disappointed me.The thing is i've already had talks with him about this matter more than once. I don't want any "best friends" who every time they're talking to someone they push their real friends to the side. Nope I refuse to deal with it. His ex never pushed his friends aside when he was dating Diego. In fact they would all hang out together. I've told Diego the same exact words i'm saying now about not pushing friends to the side because who's gonna be there when it's all said and done. I'm done talking to him about the same thing over and over again so it's best for me to just demote him to "good friend" that way I can't be disappointed anymore. Nando actually texted me yesterday asking if my fb post was about Diego and I told him it's about Diego and 1 other friend. He said "Yeah Diego asked me if the post was about him." I told him not to tell Diego, he'll just have to figure it out. It's clear he knows it's about him.

    Oh my you're bold :lol:  The boldest thing i've done was purposefully look at their crotch at let them see me doing it. With 2 others i've lifted up their shirt to look at their crotch. They would laugh cause they couldn't believe I just did that. These are str8 friends by the way lol. I think i'd get too shy to do all of what you as far asking them about their sexual fantasies and stuff unless I have a bit of alcohol.

    If you've already had previous conversations and it hasn't changed, then I feel like distance is the only option. Don't bother repeating yourself if there's no progress. It's his loss. 

    Friends that disappear when they date someone...a huge pet peeve of mine. When I'm dating someone, my friends will always matter. As will my family. I don't push anyone aside to make room for one. Putting all of your energy and effort into someone new and discarding those who have been there longer is not healthy. But I'm not going to beg them to change. I'll just distance myself and let them make the effort.

    I just realized that I am pretty bold haha. I don't want to hold back. If I think someone is cute, I'll say it. If I want to see something, touch something, or do something, I'll say it. But not right off of the bat. I always stay in an appropriate area, yet find a way to say what I like and want. Especially in the beginning stages of the friendship, I like to tread lightly. But the more comfortable I get, the more daring and bold I get. I just don't apply pressure.

    You never know what could happen if you nicely plant a seed or just ask nicely. I don't like to wait around for someone else to make the first move at any point. I always want to let them know, at any point, that whenever they're ready, we can make things happen! It's never forced or coerced, I always want it to be consensual, pleasurable, relaxing, and fun. 

     

  5. Really? I thought is was a fad. I never understood it..those lil 3min clips of porn that you cant really save to your phone..when you can easily go to pornhub or Myvidster and download a full 20-30min porn scene to your phone. 

    PornHub is a buffet.

    Myvidster ain't it though, the good stuff is getting deleted, and a lot of videos will give you pop ups.

    Tumblr is a cute snack. I'm here for it.

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  6. It really helps with the pain and that's your sole purpose for using?

    Absolutely. If I didn't have to smoke, I wouldn't (I've tried the juices/waters and love it). But it works better than any medicine has.

    I do love the culture around it though. I'd love to go to Colorado and Oregon and The Netherlands and see what it's like to experience it in legal places.

  7. Precisely, but this is really lacking with dudes out here. It seems to me at least.

    Oh it's everywhere my love, trust!! Immaturity, ego, pride, and self-esteem.

    Men who have learned to use their looks and body to get attention want to feel validated by feeling attractive and wanted, because it's somehow become synonymous with their self worth. I'm grateful to anyone who can honestly tell me they aren't interested. If they say one thing and do another or can't tell me to my face, then they don't deserve my time. I don't look at rejection as something personal and horrible, I look at it as an opportunity to move on and find a better freak.

     

    Shoot real talk as a bisexual too I'm definitely attracted to every one of my friends (besties, and other) and it's mutual (with the gay ones, the some  of the female ones & the bi ones) but we all have boundaries with it and about it. some we do the fun flirtations....2 we went a bit further, it doesn't change anything unless it actually does, and to be a bestie or good friend to me you gotta be open & honest & respectful, so if flirtation or even full on sex with a friend causes any of us to have feelings that go further it's something we'd discuss, and we have, and in 1 case tried dating, but realized early on the friendship works better than actually dating each other. 

     

    Bottom line in this thread & on this topic, I hate 1 size fits all "rules" about friends & friendships like  "nobody can be friends with someone their attracted to", "couples shouldn't be friends with single people", "couples shouldn't have best friends that aren't each other", "you can never be just friends with someone you've been intimate with before", "you can never be friends with a ex", "when you're friends with a couple if they break up you have to choose sides", "you can't be friends with too many people". I'm sorry I don't have a subscription to that bullshit, my friends are my friends for reasons & understandings decided & understood by us, not anyone else. If any of that works for anybody else, that's cute for you, carry on, but don't expect me to abide by that shit.

    Absolutely. Conversation, communication, listening, understanding...a real friend and mature individual can have these discussions. If the two of you reach common ground, then everything is fine. Even if someone changes their mind, it should be OK, as long as both parties are happy and satisfied.

    In my opinion, these made up rules have been applied by people who are used to more traditional values and views or people who won't discuss their REAL attractions to friends or their own sexual desires. With both my friends and whoever I'm dating, we discuss everything...monogamy, polyamory, cheating, messing with friends, kinky sex, marriage, etc. These discussions must happen, because all too often, the topics that aren't being touched are the problem areas. Like folks assuming they have the same definition of being faithful/monogamous with their partner, when everyone's definition is different.

    I agree. I think as we get older the bolder we get with expressing ourselves. Diego and I are the opposite. We are both texters lol. We've literally texted each other for hours. I only talk on the phone with certain people. One is my Aunt and the other is my sister. A lot of times it's just not anything worthy of calling anybody to chat about. I realized recently that apparently i'm not  as much of a priority to Diego especially us living that close. If you have time to hit up everybody else and hang out with them especially out of town then i'm not much of a best friend to you as I thought I was. Now i'm comfortable with it. I've always told my close friends i'm fine if we don't hang out all the time but at least try to keep in contact. I found myself always being the one reaching out to spend time. We used to hang out and he'd vent to me about things and i'd listen and give advice. IDK what's change but after seeing for myself he actually does have time but chooses to kick it with others and not one of his so called best friends I was through. I totally agree with the only keeping in touch through text or online. Only way that would work for me is if you're out of state and of course we'd talk a few times on the phone.

    Nando, Diego, and I used to always group text. Well last week Nando who lives almost 2hrs away made another attempt for Diego to hang out with us and even told Diego that Andrew(Diego's ex) is welcome to join. He invited Andrew cause Diego's been hanging out with him lately and I guess he figured that would finally get Diego to come and hang out with us. Well I jumped in and added "Boy Diego doesn't even hang out with us so what makes you think Andrew will?" Well later on Diego hits me up solo chat and asks how my week is going and then asked if I wanna go out and have a drink. I ignored him and didn't respond til the next day. I'm way too smart for that buddy. You only offered to hang out after all this time because of what I said in group chat. If you feel like you're pressured to hang out then you can keep it boo cause I don't want it. I still love you but I see where we stand and I don't have time. Pretty sad I feel closer to Nando than I do Diego and i've been knowing Diego for 10yrs and only been hanging out with Nando not even a year yet although i've kept in contact with Nando for about 2-3yrs. I told him i'm fine with going on our group trips like we've always done with us 3 but that I will no longer make effort to invite Diego.

    If you two are comfortable with the communication, that's fine. It's common ground, meeting in the middle.

    I think your views on keeping in touch are healthy and realistic. 

    I feel like my friends who live out of state are the best at keeping in touch. They make more of an effort because they feel the distance and want to connect.

    In my opinion, Diego has hurt you and let you down. But I think it's fair to take the opportunity and speak with him in person. Don't be upset and hold back how you feel. At least if I were in your shoes, I'd have a one on one. A conversation does need to take place. You deserve to be heard and even if things don't change, at least you were open and honest about how you feel. Talk to him! *hugs*

    I'd suck all of my friends' dicks if I could. -_- 

    And it's not even that difficult! I've seen, felt, and had further contact with a lot of friends parts. 

    What's my strategy? Ask and tell! If I like their ass and wanna see something, I say it. If I want to feel something, I ask. Whenever we're hugging, I always let my hand brush against the top of their cakes to see their reaction. I'll ask them if they mind and see what their reaction is. If I'm curious about the eggplant, I'll have a discussion about their dick and ask them questions about it. I go sexology on them haha.

    I guess because I'm a sexual health educator, sex is always a topic with my friends. Not only do I talk about the factual and scientific things, but also the freaky, nasty things. I know how all of my friends like to have sex, what they like, don't like, and what they want. 

    I plant seeds in their head, especially the ones who haven't gotten any in a while or are curious. You gotta ask them about their best sex, their fantasies, and then let them know about how good your skills are and what freaky things you've done in the past. Give an open invitation.

    I go with friends to the nude beach often and we share porn on Snapchat and Tumblr. Just gotta keep the environment a little thotty, but knowing that it's a friendly freaky safe and they won't get judged for indulging.

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  8. How much...amd does it usually last you the whole two weeks Sorry I'm all up in yo biz lol

    Don't be sorry! I don't mind the question.

    I get a deal from a friend. $40.00 for 3.5 grams and if I just take one hit a day, it'll last a month. Pack the bowl once a day, two weeks.

    I just do enough to relieve my pain. I have scoliosis (spine isn't curved correctly) and some pain in the hip, neck, and shoulders. 

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  9. She needs new music before she goes overseas. Considering how she’s doing in North America, I foresee her doing much worse internationally. There’s no buzz for her at the moment and she needs to create anticipation. At the very least, she needs to release a new single.

    New music is always a good idea. But if for some reason there isn't, they'll have to be strategic with venues and routing. If there's no new music, I think festivals in Europe is the way to go. There are places like Australia where I believe she'll do well without new music. 

    :lmao: Yes. It’s been six long years bish!!! Omg waaay too long 

    That's too long! I thought maybe you went to UWT. 

  10. You and I are alike in that way. I'm attracted to a lot of my male friends and i'd never tell them "no sex, no friendship." Funny thing is that i've told a few of my str8 friends i'm attracted to them. Well i've actually said it in a dirtier way to some of them lol. Some laugh, some flirt back, and of course you get some who give you the "If I were gay" or "If I swung that way". As for the communication thing, I'm a texter and I don't like talking on the phone but I do expect effective communication and for us to at least hang out sometimes. Catch a movie or go have some drinks and/or food or just simply hang out at one another's place. Now my friend Diego lives about a 5-8 minute drive down the street from me. I haven't seen him since August 26th but he's been going other places like SF and movies with other people. There's no reason why we live in the same town and literally a few minutes from each other and we haven't hung out in going on 3 months. 

    Diego claims i'm one of his best friends but I don't want any best friends like that. I've literally hung out more with my other friends Nando and Larry who both live about 2hrs away from me. That's pretty sad and the older I get the less time I have for b.s. like that. I no longer consider him one of my best friends. He's now just a good friend. This way I won't keep being disappointed by him.

    Being honest about my attraction is a lot newer. I used to be afraid to express myself in that way, but after reading The Ethical Slut and no longer willing to apologize for my sexuality, I just say exactly how I feel, as explicitly, honestly, and respectfully as possible. 

    They know not to try me with that "If I were gay" mess, because I can play that game even better.

    When you call someone a best friend or close friend, the communication and effort has to be mutual. I don't think the amount of time spent together matters as much as having that support and knowing you can rely on them to be there for you. Not just to hang out, but to listen and be a stress outlet. 

    My friends know I hate texting. If you're only keeping in touch with me through text or online, we aren't close. If I only hear from you or see you every 6 months or unexpectedly or you're too busy and constantly apologizing for not responding, then I'm not a priority. 

    I don't expect to see anyone every day or every week. I only ask that we're both making efforts to be there for each other.

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  11. I saw this tweet from Gil the other day:

     

    Just restaged the whole show in an hour. Keeps us on our toes ??
    Wonder what that actually means, and when we'll see the changes... Going to the show in Brooklyn this week. CAN'T WAIT

    The venue in Bethlehem is at a casino theater. Only seats over 2,000 people. The stage isn't big enough to accommodate Janet's staging, so they had to downsize it for the show. 

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  12. I registered for tickets to the Miami show and pray it's a stadium.

    This gurl tried it by doing one date at the American Airlines Arena for the 1989 Tour. Of course it was going to sell out. Yet she did the Raymond James Stadium in Tampa, 4 hours northwest of here. 

    I like her, but not enough to travel that far. I have seen her before, in 2008. She played the very popular KISS Chili Cook Off with other big country acts at my old job, a county park. I didn't think she would be doing pop and selling out venues everywhere ten years later. 

  13. Exactly. Some of these gays in there here honestly think you can't have close str8 friend or there has to be a certain criteria for you to have a close friend if you're gay. I don't understand it.

    I agree with you. But I think with any friendship, there just needs to be an understanding of each other's boundaries.

    While I'm physically attracted to most of my male friends (regardless of their sexuality) and honest about it, I stay in my lane. If they aren't mutually interested in sex or romance on top of the friendship, I accept it and move on with the friendship. I don't get offended and say "If you don't want  to sleep with me, then we can't be friends!". If they are interested, I'm going to act on it, only with the understanding that our friendship is the priority and sex and/romance isn't an obligation, it's a choice.

    Being a friend of mine requires respect, honesty, effective communication, support, boundaries, a healthy mind and heart. I give 100% unconditional love and expect the same in return. 

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  14. I pick up every other week. 

    I use a one hitter and bowl. I don't enjoy rolling blunts or joints.

    The edibles I've had give me the best high, no bad experiences so far. But I stay away from dairy and sugar, so I'd love to have some more organic/low calorie/natural edibles.

    I don't like to share. Mine is mine. I don't want to pass my bowl around. Get your own.

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