kidfresh832 Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 This is what being an adult is all about. Exactly. Sometimes you have to work with people you flat cannot stand. Hell I work with a few guys I know damn well to be borderline racist maybe even more than borderline. But, I smile and do my job and answer them when they ask how my trip was or whatever. Because we have to work together. That doesn't mean I won't check them if they cross the line but professionally you cannot always do and say what you want to say. You have to work with people you don't like that's life not being fake. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EphraimAdamz Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 I wont bad mouth you but you won't catch me saying hi or how was your day. If I have nothing positive to say, just won't say anything at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotboy06 Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 If it's clear that the both of us don't like each other then yes, I'd consider it fake. I'd be indifferent to the situation otherwise. God has spoken. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Well see I see ignoring, yet if spoken to politely and returning polite words as still being cordial. Like I said personally I only consider being fake the other person not knowing that you don't like them AND you want them to think they're a close friend to you, or just a close person, and in reality you don't like them. Now theres people in my life who don't know I don't like them, BUT I don't put myself off on them like I consider them close to me or simply like I do like them. I agree, I think for me it depends on how the other person feels about me. I'm not gonna go out of my way to make someone feel like I really like them when in fact I don't. If I know that they feel the same way then why *pretend to* bother? What about in the setting I just described? Faking polite conversation with someone that has an issue with me isn't necessary to get the job done. Like I said before I think "hello" is just part of approaching someone than it is being either cordial or fake. If I have a coworker that annoys me but it's part of my job to see or speak with them daily then I will, but there's no need for any of our conversations to be anything other than work-related ones. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotboy06 Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Yes God. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jarrylf Posted November 28, 2012 Author Share Posted November 28, 2012 I agree, I think for me it depends on how the other person feels about me. I'm not gonna go out of my way to make someone feel like I really like them when in fact I don't. If I know that they feel the same way then why *pretend to* bother? Faking polite conversation with someone that has an issue with me isn't necessary to get the job done. Like I said before I think "hello" is just part of approaching someone than it is being either cordial or fake. If I have a coworker that annoys me but it's part of my job to see or speak with them daily then I will, but there's no need for any of our conversations to be anything other than work-related ones. Yea I agree with what you're saying for the most part or understand what you mean. What do you do when you don't like someone, but they don't know, or they like you? Like alot of people think if you don't let them know flat out that you don't like them you're fake. Like I don't have any close friends I feel like that with, and like I said I don't act like a good friend (asside from "Hi, how ya doin"), but it could be taken as being fake I guess to certain people anyway Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Yea I agree with what you're saying for the most part or understand what you mean. What do you do when you don't like someone, but they don't know, or they like you? Like alot of people think if you don't let them know flat out that you don't like them you're fake. Like I don't have any close friends I feel like that with, and like I said I don't act like a good friend (asside from "Hi, how ya doin"), but it could be taken as being fake I guess to certain people anyway this is really a debate up in here.....chile....Ch. I know the fake ones, the smile in yo face all the time they wanna take yo place.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedSimba Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 It's not fake, it's called maturity. I mean, for example, I would never want to meet Mitt Romney or Eminem, but if the situation called for it I would try to be respectful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedSimba Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 And woohoo for the TLC song quote! (sorry I'm on my phone so I can't quote lol) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 Yea I agree with what you're saying for the most part or understand what you mean. What do you do when you don't like someone, but they don't know, or they like you? Like alot of people think if you don't let them know flat out that you don't like them you're fake. Like I don't have any close friends I feel like that with, and like I said I don't act like a good friend (asside from "Hi, how ya doin"), but it could be taken as being fake I guess to certain people anyway If I don't like someone but I have to speak with them for whatever reason then I'd probably keep the conversation at that superficial "Hi, how ya doin" level. It's not like I'm asking for deep insight into the inner workings of their minds or how their love life is going or asking them if they wanna hang out later or whatever. I'm not the kind of person that will come up to you and say "I don't like you". That's not being real, that's being extra. All I have to do is keep the conversation at the minimum with vague responses and they get the hint. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jarrylf Posted November 28, 2012 Author Share Posted November 28, 2012 this is really a debate up in here.....chile....Ch. I know the fake ones, the smile in yo face all the time they wanna take yo place.... LOL this aint no debate it's a discussion lol. On my end I'm not trying to morph any opinions, just a discussion lol. Yea in my personal life I can tell when Im like that with people, when I'm close to them or want to be, but I get the strong vibe that they either don't like me or want to be close to me, me being me, when i get that hint, I back off, and it doesn't alter my opinion of them,but it says just bring it on down a lil lol. God knows I hate dropping hits and people not being able to get it. And I'm a believer in if you're going to drop those kind of hints they should be simple enough for anyone not having to dig. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xu1993 Posted November 28, 2012 Share Posted November 28, 2012 oh so it's not about paying taxes and education bills Being an adult means doing what you may not like, but do because it's what's required of us to get us further. All these things are included. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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