how is it dirty, backhanded, and disgusting? its only dirty, backhanded, and disgusting if they were messing around while you guys were together, if they had enough respect to wait until we broke up, then i can respect that. People arent property, and should be free to date whomever they want...the heart wants what the heart wants............... and as for the Ex husband part....the same principle applies....they are an EX for a reason, why care who they sleep with?
u clearly have some unresolved issues with your exes