Escapade Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 My two best friends have been annoying me lately. Besides trying to make me feel bad about still being a virgin, they keep having unprotected sex, and then get mad and call me jealous when I tell them that they can get STD's or pregnant from unprotected sex. They call me a prude and tell me it's something that I won't understand until I'm sexually active. So how do you guys feel about unprotected sex? Is it something that should be taken seriously or am I just an ignorant prude? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Utopia Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Considering all the diseases, It's stupid and whoever feels otherwise is an idiot. Edit: The fact that they mock you for being a virgin just how how immature they are so take everything they say with a monster truck packed with salt Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Escapade Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 ^That's how I feel. I wouldn't want something like HIV/Aids, etc to happen to them, I guess that's why I care so much, but if they're gonna keep attacking me for telling them then they're gonna just have to live and learn on their own. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Utopia Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 ^That's how I feel. I wouldn't want something like HIV/Aids, etc to happen to them, I guess that's why I care so much, but if they're gonna keep attacking me for telling them then they're gonna just have to live and learn on their own. Like you really don't need ignorant ppl in your life but if you really feel like your friendship with them is something important to you than yeah, just ignore their opinions, brush it off and move on cuz they are clearly idiots. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 wow I haven't read a thing but the title....you opened up a shit can of worms.....so having said that and having not read a thing yet, I will say its out here, I watch plenty of porn, Lord knows I do, and I rarely see condoms anymore, its as if HIV is gone, or simply something someone else gets ....what I will say is people want to feel connected in a visceral way no barriers, any "dont dos" are very MUCH dos ...Ive had guys even ask me when I put on a condom "you have sex that way?" .....Im no angel so lets not get it twisted, Im a top and I enjoy something warm and wet, my only objections now are the guys, they aren't worth the risk, it may sound silly or even stupid, but the hotter the guy the less guilt ....Im just being honest as hell.... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Utopia Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 You show up to do a porn movie with a paper from your doctor telling your boss and the other actors that youare clean (still doesn't make it right but understandable), you don't go out and tell someone "hey let's fuck but let me see your clinical trial first.". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Escapade Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 ^ and even besides STD's, my friends are in no position to be able to afford a baby, let alone afford an abortion. My one bff kills me the most cause she's the main one saying how everyone from high school is pregnant now and talking shit about them like she's not doing the same thing that got them in their position. Smh. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 My two best friends have been annoying me lately. Besides trying to make me feel bad about still being a virgin, they keep having unprotected sex, and then get mad and call me jealous when I tell them that they can get STD's or pregnant from unprotected sex. They call me a prude and tell me it's something that I won't understand until I'm sexually active. So how do you guys feel about unprotected sex? Is it something that should be taken seriously or am I just an ignorant prude? honey having now read that statement .....you stay in your lane....you do you....listen, I am guilty, guilty of comparing my life to so many I have crossed paths with that have done so much more, doctors, lawyers, I've fucked them all, and thought was I just not good enough? Didn't I go to school with these same people? Didn't I score better on the same tests we all took? The point is don't compare your life to the lives of others, because you never know what their journey is about...are they truly happy? are they better than you? So what folks are out here giving it up and you're not, I often wonder if Im the last guy on Earth that wants to actually date and not fuck and leave, the answer is of course not, Im not alone, neither are you, the problem is finding those that share your point of view if not at least respect it, and if they can't respect your views they don't deserve to be in your life, nor should they. I get it we want friends no one wants to be a hobbit. But at what price? To what end? You give in and do what the herd is doing where does "you" go? Isn't protecting your true self worth more than a few laughs and hang outs with people who at the end of the day aren't your deep close personal friends....I had a friend tell me once, "true friends don't bring drama to your door step" ....keep away from those that criticize your well intentioned ideas because they are sooooo busy being in the fucking herd. Yes it hurts, it hurts like all hell to be different and still want to fit in but the "you" that makes up who you are, won't let u. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aquaria Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Always wear a condom... as a female pregnancy is not the only thing you need to worry about and the morning after pill should not be popped like skittles. 1 in 2 people will get an STD in their lifetime and most won't even know it because there may be no symptoms. You're being smart and you should stick to your guns, and in case there's any doubt, it is a big deal and you're not a prude. Maybe it's time you got some new friends! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawn1814 Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 My two best friends have been annoying me lately. Besides trying to make me feel bad about still being a virgin, they keep having unprotected sex, and then get mad and call me jealous when I tell them that they can get STD's or pregnant from unprotected sex. They call me a prude and tell me it's something that I won't understand until I'm sexually active. So how do you guys feel about unprotected sex? Is it something that should be taken seriously or am I just an ignorant prude? Drop their asses.. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Drop their asses.. preach....that's the whole fucking point....as long and drawn out as I put it....keep muthafuckas not in yo lane out of it....I had someone tell me this once, and almost 20 years later it still holds very true...."In this life you will be lucky if you can honestly say you found one or two sincere, deep, down like four flat tires ...friends" ....well he didnt say it like that but you folks can read shit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 its true, people come and go...Angela said it best once when I was with my ex, sometimes people are there for a time and they leave as the window closes, others stay on beyond their expiration date, you have to know the difference.....the point is at some point everyone leaves, so why waste time with those that should never be present to begin with? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Escapade Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 True. I feel that I shouldn't even be wasting my time with people that try to make me feel like less of a person. Plus it's annoying to keep repeating things over and over to people to don't listen. I even spammed their inboxes with pictures of STD's to get the point across but if they don't wanna understand then there's nothing I can do about it/ 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna â™” Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 I understand where you're coming from. I've had friends like that, too. Honestly, they are hardly ever worth keeping around. I skipped over some of the replies in here so I'm not sure if someone has said this already, but based on this "tell me it's something that I won't understand until I'm sexually active" those are the type of people who run that tired old "it just doesn't feel the same" argument. All the while, completely ignoring what you said about pregnancy and STDs. I bet it won't "feel the same" when they catch something, either. Personally, I'm glad I'm still a virgin, but even when I do have sex eventually I promised myself I'd be responsible. I've seen too many people that I've known end up in pure hell because of bad sexual choices they made. I also wouldn't have unprotected sex unless it was with a spouse or at the very least someone I'm getting that close to. The sad thing, though, is that even then you may have to worry. However, that will be the only risk I'll accept for myself. There will be testing, though. I will be sure of that. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 True. I feel that I shouldn't even be wasting my time with people that try to make me feel like less of a person. Plus it's annoying to keep repeating things over and over to people to don't listen. I even spammed their inboxes with pictures of STD's to get the point across but if they don't wanna understand then there's nothing I can do about it/ you want approval....not just any approval but their approval, you want to be part of the "in" crowd, in the herd, sure it makes sense, its hard being on the outside looking in, but plenty of people today are no longer sheep, they only want to be true to who they are....and honestly???? people respect you more for standing for what you truly believe than simply being a yes person that goes along for the sake of fake sisterhood and friendship....I actually hate the word "friend" I dont even know what that fucking means too many people I thought were friends showed their ass Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. Wonder Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Those two friends are easy and by junior year they're gonna be washed up and worn out. Kick them to the curb now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr. Wonder Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Oh yeah but answer the question, having unprotected sex is taking a big risk. And it's a risk that can last a lifetime, and definitely not worth it. Albeit natural sex is far more pleasurable, but walking away from your perm being sweated out knowing you protected yourself is a far more comforting feeling than walking away wondering if you caught something. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jarrylf Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Um..start slowly seperating yourself from them please, you're obviously too good for them. Like it's not even just about their unprotected sex it's about them seriously pressuring you an putting you down for who you are and what you do, even if it's not bothering you that much because you know them and their shit, you don't need something that smart about you challenged. I'm not gonna lie and say every time I've ever had sex in my life I was protected, but I'm not proud of the few times I havent used protection, its been a LONG time since I have (my teenage years really), but I do think back to how stupid it was that I risked that(...especially since my ex gf who was my 1st turned out to be quite the lil ho-tramp), but yea I don't put down anyone who doesn't remember to protect themselves because we all make mistakes, but to consciously not is a different story. Don't ever let someone make you feel bad about doing the right thing, that you at least know is the right thing for YOU, you're too good for that & them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Escapade Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 Thank you guys for the advice. I really appreciate it! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xu1993 Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Your parents had/have unprotected sex, so lets not act like only sluts do it. If you're in a committed relationship with someone you're planning to spend rest of life with, and you're both tested, and monogamous, I don't judge. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jarrylf Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Your parents had/have unprotected sex, so lets not act like only sluts do it. If you're in a committed relationship with someone you're planning to spend rest of life with, and you're both tested, and monogamous, I don't judge. PREACH IT! Ma feelings exactly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna â™” Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Your parents had/have unprotected sex, so lets not act like only sluts do it. If you're in a committed relationship with someone you're planning to spend rest of life with, and you're both tested, and monogamous, I don't judge. I concur. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dungeon Dragon Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 It's not worth it. The worry, stress and plain things you have to deal with when you catch something is just not worth it. I live in L.A and it's scary out here when it comes to sex and STD's. I've had guys tell me they are HIV positive and still want to bareback because their cell count is low. So many people just don't think or feel the same way we do when it comes to sex and protection. Don't even care at all. I can't deal with the hassle of catching HIV. I have too many aspirations and things planned for my future, so I don't risk it at all. What a headache. So many guys think the medication will keep them healthy forever , and that's just not the case at all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedSimba Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Well if they want the AIDS and babies then... Nobody should ever feel pressured to give up their virginity if they're not ready yet (especially without protection). I personally wouldn't want people like that in my life, but I guess sometimes we hope we can change people's views for the better. (Sadly, we can't make the horses drink the water so to speak. ) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 ^ and even besides STD's, my friends are in no position to be able to afford a baby, let alone afford an abortion. My one bff kills me the most cause she's the main one saying how everyone from high school is pregnant now and talking shit about them like she's not doing the same thing that got them in their position. Smh. Isn't birth control nearly free Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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