jarrylf Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 Or I'm wondering if you bitches was the one booed up with a cheater and you were supposed to be in a relationship..... don't be mad the other man, be mad at that mofo that "vowed" to love u My philosophy on that is I only get mad at the other guy when he KNOWS the women/man im with is with me/someone, I DONT PLAY THAT, youknew when you know what you were doing you have fault. Now I've been in the situation where I hooked up with a girl and thought she was single, and it went pretty far for a good while and then I found out she wasn't that she was actually engaged on top of being in a relationship. In that scenerio I don't think I or anyone in my position can really be at fault, it means me & the person they're with are the victims. that's what Im saying ...if you met a dude, and he hollering at you, that tell me something game, cause if he was not single he shouldn't be acting like he is, that's still on him, Im not asking oh you got a man, from jump? It don't work like that But you should know MOST guys flirt, in a relationship or not. So 1 way or another 1 should not jump to conclusions based off of behavior. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 oh and for the record, I hadn't seen nor spoken to this dude in over a year, change phone companies, not my number, BUT lost his, had no idea what his number was, HE CONTACTED ME TWO WEEKS AGO. And that means what? You still entertaining him and/or the thought Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 The excuses... The excuses. Yall do yall. have at it..I give up With men...Guilty until proven innocent. Like that saying goes expect the worst but hope for the best. You don't put NOTHING pass a man. It's so many ppl i have ran across, and thought "oh, they are so cool" ...."oh, they are so nice" ...."I can't tell he's an str8 honest type" And then WHAT HAPPENS???? Once you lift the curtain, you found out he's like the majority. I'm not saying all men are foul but all men have the capacity to be slick....which is why I said you have to be CAUTIOUS. Play your position well , dnt get played cuz your juss not "jumping to any conclusions" ...those are the ones that get suckered Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 Does the other man know? I wouldn't want to be 'cheated' on so why help another man cheat? I don't share things anyway....fuck sharing a man/woman... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 I'm single though - what do I know? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 Bu, you being single doesn't mean you can't have morals about this sort of situation You're on the right track wit ur train of thought. What they are doin is enabling a man to cheat no materr if they knew the person was taken or learned later.. if you still messing with him After u found out..thennnnn ur a sideline. Point. Blank. Period ...no way around it. Like Iyanla say "Let's call a Thing A THING, PPL!!!" lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 Bu, you being single doesn't mean you can't have morals about this sort of situation You're on the right track wit ur train of thought. What they are doin is enabling a man to cheat no materr if they knew the person was taken or learned later.. if you still messing with him After u found out..thennnnn ur a sideline. Point. Blank. Period ...no way around it. Like Iyanla say "Let's call a Thing A THING, PPL!!!" lol . By asking "how would you feel if your man cheated on you"...you get the answer to what should be done in this scenario imo. And those people have a special song for them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 I love that song Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted June 19, 2014 Author Share Posted June 19, 2014 I'm all reading here is how bad the single guy is....nothing about the actual cheater like he did nothing wrong, where's the songs about cheaters?I feel this thread was all throwing out judging and talk about having morals, in a situation that's just sex, which makes me wonder how evolved to today's reality you folks are or aren't? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 I'm all reading here is how bad the single guy is....nothing about the actual cheater like he did nothing wrong, where's the songs about cheaters?I feel this thread was all throwing out judging and talk about having morals, in a situation that's just sex, which makes me wonder how evolved to today's reality you folks are or aren't? Here's a song for you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted June 19, 2014 Author Share Posted June 19, 2014 Here's a song for you no that's not for me....let me text my bud and forward it to him ..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 no that's not for me....let me text my bud and forward it to him ..... It's totally for you as you're clearly trying to throw the blame over on him. Excuse after excuse.. can't blame no body but you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted June 19, 2014 Author Share Posted June 19, 2014 It's totally for you as you think ....but no it's not, if any of what you folks think were really true, you would address the cheater too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 I'm all reading here is how bad the single guy is....nothing about the actual cheater like he did nothing wrong, where's the songs about cheaters?I feel this thread was all throwing out judging and talk about having morals, in a situation that's just sex, which makes me wonder how evolved to today's reality you folks are or aren't? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted June 19, 2014 Author Share Posted June 19, 2014 Does the other man know? I wouldn't want to be 'cheated' on so why help another man cheat? I don't share things anyway....fuck sharing a man/woman... what are we sharing?After a decade together I doubt they fuck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 as you think ....but no it's not, if any of what you folks think were really true, you would address the cheater too He is in the wrong but that doesn't excuse you of your behaviors I'm still not certain why you would pursue a married man with child.. Don't boast and brag about being a sideline... They're sex life may be dull but that doesn't mean you should come in, secretly, to help him.. It shows your character.. You would rather settle for being #2... and that's not fulfilling at all.. I'm not sure what you get out of it besides a load Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted June 19, 2014 Author Share Posted June 19, 2014 He is in the wrong but that doesn't excuse you of your behaviors I'm still not certain why you would pursue a married man with child.. Don't boast and brag about being a sideline... They're sex life may be dull but that doesn't mean you should come in, secretly, to help him.. It shows your character.. You would rather settle for being #2... and that's not fulfilling at all.. I'm not sure what you get out of it besides a load we fuck....that's it ....or did you guys stop having sex with anyone unless their single and available which explains why you're all in satisfying relationships right? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 what are we sharing?After a decade together I doubt they fuck So that makes it ok? Cheaters are always in the wrong. Never did I think I'd quote Tyler but he was kinda on point.... "The person you are with only gives you 80% of what you need. Along comes somebody offering the 20% you're not getting, and it looks really tempting. You could take that extra 20%, but in the long run you'll lose that 80%, then you're stuck with just that 20%." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted June 19, 2014 Author Share Posted June 19, 2014 He is in the wrong but that doesn't excuse you of your behaviors I'm still not certain why you would pursue a married man with child.. Don't boast and brag about being a sideline... They're sex life may be dull but that doesn't mean you should come in, secretly, to help him.. It shows your character.. You would rather settle for being #2... and that's not fulfilling at all.. I'm not sure what you get out of it besides a load did I pursue him? Or did he pursue me? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 we fuck....that's it ....or did you guys stop having sex with anyone unless their single and available which explains why you're all in satisfying relationships right? But you're not in one either Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted June 19, 2014 Author Share Posted June 19, 2014 So that makes it ok? Cheaters are always in the wrong. Never did I think I'd quote Tyler but he was kinda on point.... "The person you are with only gives you 80% of what you need. Along comes somebody offering the 20% you're not getting, and it looks really tempting. You could take that extra 20%, but in the long run you'll lose that 80%, then you're stuck with just that 20%." No he has 100% he's not letting go of his 80 for anything ....he wants his 20 too Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 No he has 100% he's not letting go of his 80 for anything ....he wants his 20 too If he has 100% then he wouldn't "want" you. I think you're trying to come up with ways to make yourself seem like what you're doing is right when in my humble opinion, it doesn't seem right to me (and clearly some others too). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted June 19, 2014 Author Share Posted June 19, 2014 But you're not in one either Nope and I aint calling anyone out on what they do, cause that's not me, but in here this thing was turned on me, very few addressed the cheater at all, and some make it sound like he's a victim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted June 19, 2014 Author Share Posted June 19, 2014 If he has 100% then he wouldn't "want" you. In one person....I wish u had more relationships under your belt, its not uncommon for gay men to be in open relationships Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted June 19, 2014 Author Share Posted June 19, 2014 ugh he texted back, they're in an open relationship and I guess the other guy knows and is fine with it ...so he says Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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