Reyna ♔ Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Same situation, different gender You're young and probably a nun so you don't know how sex works.. They had sex 4 times.. I'm sure he knew of his marriage and children. I get that you posed it that way, but I feel differently towards each of my parents so..yeah. I know how people work, and so I know how easy and how likely it is for them to lie in order to get what they want. Most affairs happen where the cheater is pretending to be single. Few come right out and admit they're involved elsewhere and kids are even less likely to be mentioned. Least of all to someone you're just fuck buddies with at best. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 I get that you posed it that way, but I feel differently towards each of my parents so..yeah. I know how people work, and so I know how easy and how likely it is for them to lie in order to get what they want. Most affairs happen where the cheater is pretending to be single. Few come right out and admit they're involved elsewhere and kids are even less likely to be mentioned. Least of all to someone you're just fuck buddies with at best. Yes.. The first time.. No point in lying to each other after twice. Three or more times, there has to be some form of communication other than 'u up'.. Trust me he knew he was married. He didn't know the names or whatever but he knew. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Yes.. The first time.. No point in lying to each other after twice. Three or more times, there has to be some form of communication other than 'u up'.. Trust me he knew he was married. He didn't know the names or whatever but he knew. There's no point, but that doesn't mean that it isn't still the trend for most affairs. People have carried on affairs for months even up to a year without disclosing that information. 3 or 4 times is nothing given that fact. Unless there's a chance that the wife/husband and side piece are going to meet or if their meetups will conflict with family plans then there's no incentive to speak on it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 There's no point, but that doesn't mean that it isn't still the trend for most affairs. People have carried on affairs for months even up to a year without disclosing that information. 3 or 4 times is nothing given that fact. Unless there's a chance that the wife/husband and side piece are going to meet or if their meetups will conflict with family plans then there's no incentive to speak on it. You must be an expert in affairs 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 You must be an expert in affairs I'm an expert in people. I'm always asked for advice and I also do plenty of observing. It's not something I want to know about since it makes me very distrusting of most people, but it comes in handy being able to spot the bull. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 The father's obviously jealous cause he can't sleep with him anymore or he just feels protective of his daughter and doesn't want someone who's keeping a secret like that from her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 I sure hate how some of yall be on them high horses, I swear it makes me wonder the number of relationships some of you have been in. Shit gets weird.... Anywho from what I can see, when there's a lot of secrets and lies from unspoken truths, its a bad combo to be in any relationship that way, it is not viable long term. If he really loved this woman, he would feel it was his duty to disclose info to her that she may or may not accept, but he has the onus to at least give her the option to choose for herself what she finds acceptable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 I sure hate how some of yall be on them high horses, I swear it makes me wonder the number of relationships some of you have been in. Shit gets weird.... Anywho from what I can see, when there's a lot of secrets and lies from unspoken truths, its a bad combo to be in any relationship that way, it is not viable long term. If he really loved this woman, he would feel it was his duty to disclose info to her that she may or may not accept, but he has the onus to at least give her the option to choose for herself what she finds acceptable. just because someone's bisexual doesn't mean they'll cheat on someone they're with. I don't think he should tell anyone his business unless he wants to step out on his girl for some side fun with a guy then maybe he should. Look at the father, obviously he's been cheating on his wife for years with men and he's still happily married but now he wants to ruin it for somebody else. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 just because someone's bisexual doesn't mean they'll cheat on someone they're with. I don't think he should tell anyone his business unless he wants to step out on his girl for some side fun with a guy then maybe he should. Look at the father, obviously he's been cheating on his wife for years with men and he's still happily married but now he wants to ruin it for somebody else. nnnnnnnnnn ...no sis... no tea no shade here but dont you think that something as important to a relationship as your sexual preferences, that she has a right to know that? Even if say one didnt act on those feelings, which I dont see it but let's say they didnt do anything, those thoughts are still there im sure, and isnt a relationship about communicating? Isn't it about sharing who you are with someone that wants to do the same? There's a respect factor here for being upfront, I'm willing to bet a lot of men wont even talk about having such feelings or acted on them out of guilt Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 I sure hate how some of yall be on them high horses, I swear it makes me wonder the number of relationships some of you have been in. Shit gets weird.... You're just now realizing that? Everyone is PERFECT on this board. I've been saying that for years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jarrylf Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Leave them, break it off, and make up a reason "I'm sill in love with someone else" (easiest), because there's some truth's like this....I don't think need to be exposed to the other person. Me being the open-minded optimist I am I'd love to say tell her and maybe she can accept it and live with it, but for me, it would take alot for even myself to be comfortable with on my end and it would take ALOT of work and breaking the awkwardness. Can it be done, for the women who I very much think is perfect for me in every way that I can see myself getting old with and having a family with and me & her dad had just 1 meaningless night (iwhats funny is this scenerio is very much a realistic concern for a bi guy like myself, in my case it'd probably be brother tho LOL), if the love for each other is strong enough and you're willing to to put up with alot of awkward moments, go for it. But for me right now anyway, it's a no unless she's like a Janet clone in at least 85% of her personality. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Leave them, break it off, and make up a reason "I'm sill in love with someone else" (easiest), because there's some truth's like this....I don't think need to be exposed to the other person. Me being the open-minded optimist I am I'd love to say tell her and maybe she can accept it and live with it, but for me, it would take alot for even myself to be comfortable with on my end and it would take ALOT of work and breaking the awkwardness. Can it be done, for the women who I very much think is perfect for me in every way that I can see myself getting old with and having a family with and me & her dad had just 1 meaningless night (iwhats funny is this scenerio is very much a realistic concern for a bi guy like myself, in my case it'd probably be brother tho LOL), if the love for each other is strong enough and you're willing to to put up with alot of awkward moments, go for it. But for me right now anyway, it's a no unless she's like a Janet clone in at least 85% of her personality.It was 4x in this scenario There is no way a sane person would be okay with anyone sleeping with their married parent, then marrying you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted April 14, 2015 Author Share Posted April 14, 2015 I mean let's face it...the d in her has been in her dad too. How can someone get over that? If it was a random person then sure it's just sex...but when your own father has tried the goods too? She'd be a big person to let that go . 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 I mean let's face it...the d in her has been in her dad too. How can someone get over that? If it was a random person then sure it's just sex...but when your own father has tried the goods too? She'd be a big person to let that go . It's not that difficult when you can see your parent as they are which is just another human being. Yes, they gave you life, but that isn't a miracle. It's a natural thing just like sex. Now the cheating would be hardest to get over since your married parent basically had an affair, but just having sex with a parent isn't that difficult to get over once you get past the initial gross factor, lol. Maybe I'm just exceptionally accepting. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 You're expeptionally accepting. We all know parents have sex.. We don't picture them having sex with our SO and not gay sex lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 You're expeptionally accepting. We all know parents have sex.. We don't picture them having sex with our SO and not gay sex lol True, and I said it was gross, but that's no reason to leave the love of your life. Love is very hard to find these days. People should be a little more considerate of the things they're willing to accept and what they're not. There are worse things for a partner to have done or be doing than a 4-time fling, lol. Why does the kind of sex matter? Relax, it's just sex... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted April 14, 2015 Author Share Posted April 14, 2015 It's not that difficult when you can see your parent as they are which is just another human being. Yes, they gave you life, but that isn't a miracle. It's a natural thing just like sex. Now the cheating would be hardest to get over since your married parent basically had an affair, but just having sex with a parent isn't that difficult to get over once you get past the initial gross factor, lol. Maybe I'm just exceptionally accepting. It would always be in the back of my mind . I'm very picky like that though haha. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 True, and I said it was gross, but that's no reason to leave the love of your life. Love is very hard to find these days. People should be a little more considerate of the things they're willing to accept and what they're not. There are worse things for a partner to have done or be doing than a 4-time fling, lol. Why does the kind of sex matter? Relax, it's just sex... Sex isn't that serious but when you involve a family member's love of being dicked down.. Well then it turns into an episode of Jerry Springer Janet didn't say that after boning JD's mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 It would always be in the back of my mind . I'm very picky like that though haha. Really? I can't imagine why unless you constantly had to deal with the two of them being around each other. Sex isn't that serious but when you involve family member.. It turns into an episode of Jerry Springer Janet didn't say that after boning JD's mom Springer or not, this should be forgivable. The love of your life is worth a little discomfort even this since it was a temporary thing with no real after effects except being grossed out a short while. She didn't have to. Point still stands. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Really? I can't imagine why unless you constantly had to deal with the two of them being around each other. Springer or not, this should be forgivable. The love of your life is worth a little discomfort even this since it was a temporary thing with no real after effects except being grossed out a short while. She didn't have to. Point still stands.Nah single player. I want you to go out and date someone for 12 months, then have them tell you they dicked-down your father. Yes. Context is everything Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Nah single player. I want you to go out and date someone for 12 months, then have them tell you they dicked-down your father. Yes. Context is everything Well I can't exactly force this situation, nor would I, so I can only judge this as a hypothetical. I'm sure the daughter wasn't planning on marrying her father's old fling. She didn't even know he had one. It just happened that way. So, for me, if it happened that way then I'd eventually be okay with it. Especially since in roughly two years' time, I won't be anywhere near my father since I'll be moving from here. You just have to take my word on that unless this situation does, in fact, come up for me. Not so essential in this case. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 nnnnnnnnnn ...no sis... no tea no shade here but dont you think that something as important to a relationship as your sexual preferences, that she has a right to know that? Even if say one didnt act on those feelings, which I dont see it but let's say they didnt do anything, those thoughts are still there im sure, and isnt a relationship about communicating? Isn't it about sharing who you are with someone that wants to do the same? There's a respect factor here for being upfront, I'm willing to bet a lot of men wont even talk about having such feelings or acted on them out of guilt no one shares EVERYTHING about themselves to the person they're with. Not men and not women either. They may share it with other people but not with the one they're with. I have a friend who's married and he does coke from time to time but do you think his wife knows about it. Hell no she doesn't. He says he doesn't do it much anymore and really doesn't like it but I don't believe him Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Are you and Bailey the same person? You have a story about a friend in every scenario? Nice to know your pool of friends include a married cokehead Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jarrylf Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 It was 4x in this scenario There is no way a sane person would be okay with anyone sleeping with their married parent, then marrying you. OH..........No.....no we don't have time for that, and with the family not knowing the dad swung that way too, HELL no, it's just too much. I mean let's face it...the d in her has been in her dad too. How can someone get over that? If it was a random person then sure it's just sex...but when your own father has tried the goods too? She'd be a big person to let that go . RIGHT that's my thought! I'm trying to be my open minded "Love Is All We Need" self, but DAMNIT that's a biggie, like yes I believe love can stay through this but maybe not a relationship, maybe a friendship and go from there, in fact that's more realistic to what I'd do if it went down like that and I told her the truth, marriage is off but maybe we can be friends and go back from there. But yea your parent you thought was straight had some of the dick you enjoy.....if theres a "Oh I don't care".....theres issues in there, for real LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 And there will always be that lingering thought "did my dad do it better?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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