bu. Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 The dilemma I have been in love for the last year and recently proposed. After 10 years of bisexuality (though I had more female partners than male) I was happy, excited and in love. She introduced me to her parents three months ago and her father and I recognised each other from a local cruising site. We have been intimate on about three or four occasions. He has made contact with me and asked me to tell my fiancée about my sexuality. I asked if his wife knew about his, and we have reached something of an impasse. He has since taken screenshots of old photos of me and I have also found some of him. Shall I just walk away from the woman of my dreams? http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/apr/12/tell-fiancee-i-am-bisexual-and-had-sex-with-her-dad-mariella-frostrup What would you do? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Walk... She's going to find out eventually. That's kinda gross especially since the father is still married Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 I'm a little confused about when they slept together. Regardless, the father is in the wrong for cheating, but if it was before the young guy met his girl then I think he should be honest with her if he loves her so much and let her decide where they go from there. If it was after the fact, then he should still be honest then leave. Don't leave her full of questions as to why things won't work out because she'll start blaming herself. As painful as it is, in any case, she deserves the truth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Walk. No one wants that kind of heavy secret held over there head, able to drop at any minute. He would be living in fear forever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 I'm a little confused about when they slept together. Regardless, the father is in the wrong for cheating, but if it was before the young guy met his girl then I think he should be honest with her if he loves her so much and let her decide where they go from there. If it was after the fact, then he should still be honest then leave. Don't leave her full of questions as to why things won't work out because she'll start blaming herself. As painful as it is, in any case, she deserves the truth. I think when he was younger Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted April 13, 2015 Author Share Posted April 13, 2015 The dad should tell his own wife about himself first before asking someone else to tell their girl imo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 I think when he was younger Alright, so he should be honest and then let her decide. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aquaria Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Get up on my feet and stop making tired excuses Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 The dad should tell his own wife about himself first before asking someone else to tell their girl imo. Family meeting needs to be called Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laveaux Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Stay. Throw the dad some 'd', he is angry that his daughter is getting his goodies but show him that it could be a win win for all parties involved. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Wait how is the father gonna try and blackmail him when the father is married too? Why doesn't he tell his wife he's bisexual too if he wants his daughter's fiance to come out as bisexual Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Wait how is the father gonna try and blackmail him when the father is married too? Why doesn't he tell his wife he's bisexual too if he wants his daughter's fiance to come out as bisexual as if he's gonna sit down and tell his wife of X years that he cheated on her with their future son-in-law Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HollyHood Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Walk away Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedSimba Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Easier said than done, but he owes the truth to her if he truly loves her. If she doesn't accept him, then it wasn't meant to be. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Ask yourself this... Would you marry/date the person who Banged or got banged by your married, hell, or single dad? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Ask yourself this... Would you marry/date the person who Banged or got banged by your married, hell, or single dad? If this was in the a few years in the past and I loved him/her enough to marry in general then yes. I would be grossed out being that's my father, but I can't see myself giving up the love of my life just for one minor thing that grossed me out. My only worry would be a situation like Voodoo mentioned where they'd still possibly be sleeping together still behind my back. That'd be my only real deterrent. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 If this was in the a few years in the past and I loved him/her enough to marry in general then yes. I would be grossed out being that's my father, but I can't see myself giving up the love of my life just for one minor thing that grossed me out. My only worry would be a situation like Voodoo mentioned where they'd still possibly be sleeping together still behind my back. That'd be my only real deterrent. Minor? Your future wife or husband (or just wife) let your father put his penis in her.. The same place your tongue has been multiple times that's some jerry springer shit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Minor? Your future wife or husband (or just wife) let your father put his penis in her.. The same place your tongue has been multiple times that's some jerry springer shit And she'll have likely slept with other people, too, so what's your point? Like I said, I'd be grossed out being that it was with my dad, but I don't think it'd be fair to treat her being with him any different than her being with anyone else in her past. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aed05 Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 If this is the love of his life, then he needs to politely STFU and go on about his business. Both he and her father are living lies, so why try and blow up anbody's spot? Real life doesn't have to be a reality show or an episode of EMPIRE. Grown folks take secretes to the grave all the time. He sounds like a drama queen. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 And she'll have likely slept with other people, too, so what's your point? Like I said, I'd be grossed out being that it was with my dad, but I don't think it'd be fair to treat her being with him any different than her being with anyone else in her past. Other people didn't give you life Rey Rey other people didn't raise you (unless you're a Mormon).. The person who changed your diapers and put you to bed.. Pounding the person you want to change your adult diapers and put you to bed. C'mon... Where does the line get drawn? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Other people didn't give you life Rey Rey other people didn't raise you (unless you're a Mormon).. The person who changed your diapers and put you to bed.. Pounding the person you want to change your adult diapers and put you to bed. C'mon... Where does the line get drawn? It's not like she knew he was my father when she slept with him (if it parallels this case). He was just a guy in the past to her. The line gets drawn, for me, in three cases. 1) If I feel there's potential for this to keep going on behind my back. 2) If she knew he was married and slept with him since I don't think that's ever okay in any regard. 3) Since we're talking a woman here, if her time with him resulted in a child. If none of those apply, then I can get past it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 It's not like she knew he was my father when she slept with him (if it parallels this case). He was just a guy in the past to her. The line gets drawn, for me, in three cases. 1) If I feel there's potential for this to keep going on behind my back. 2) If she knew he was married and slept with him since I don't think that's ever okay in any regard. 3) Since we're talking a woman here, if her time with him resulted in a child. If none of those apply, then I can get past it. Since we're talking about a woman here What if the woman slept with your married mother? PS) In the initial posts, I'm sure the man knew he was married Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reyna ♔ Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 Since we're talking about a woman here What if the woman slept with your married mother? PS) In the initial posts, I'm sure the man knew he was married I'd honestly find that a little hilarious since my mom is a bit of a prude. I'd still be grossed out, but less so than if she was with my dad. She'd be least likely to do it in general whereas my dad seems the type. I doubt it. It didn't read that way, imo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
downeaznboi Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Id bail. This relationship is toxic even if the girlfriend is cool with what happened in the past between this dude and her father. Thats a big if. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 I'd honestly find that a little hilarious since my mom is a bit of a prude. I'd still be grossed out, but less so than if she was with my dad. She'd be least likely to do it in general whereas my dad seems the type. I doubt it. It didn't read that way, imo. Same situation, different gender You're young and probably a nun so you don't know how sex works.. They had sex 4 times.. I'm sure he knew of his marriage and children. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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