janetDAYZ Posted February 23, 2011 Share Posted February 23, 2011 I say fuck them both, the cheater and the cheating assistant...I do not cosign wrong shit from any damn body, especially family...if you think you are in a better place morally because all you did was participate in a person cheating, IMO your logic is severely flawed...if you knowing engage in an intimate relationship with someone who is currently in a relationship, both of you are in the same trifling boat...my advice to that person would be, get some self respect and some respect for other people...your self esteem has to be troubled if you think all you deserve is a muthafucka who is currently in a relationship with someone else...I'm sorry, but I don't want half fuckin person Shawn has a whole nother outlook when it comes to things like this. He's NOT at fault Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted February 23, 2011 Share Posted February 23, 2011 That's so damn stank! I don't know about when it comes with straight couples cheating on their partner with someone else of the same sex. I have a different view on that tho Which is? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted February 23, 2011 Author Share Posted February 23, 2011 Which is? I honestly wouldn't see it as being as wrong as a guy cheating on his girl with another girl or a girl cheating on her man with another man cause when they cheat they're cheating with someone who has the same thing their partner has. On the other hand If a woman cheats on her man with another woman I wouldn't find it as wrong cause its not like her man has titties and a vagina and its apparent that she likes women too and its not her fault so I would kinda give a little lenience to the situation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted February 23, 2011 Share Posted February 23, 2011 I honestly wouldn't see it as being as wrong as a guy cheating on his girl with another girl or a girl cheating on her man with another man cause when they cheat they're cheating with someone who has the same thing their partner has. On the other hand If a woman cheats on her man with another woman I wouldn't find it as wrong cause its not like her man has titties and a vagina and its apparent that she likes women too and its not her fault so I would kinda give a little lenience to the situation I feel it should have less impact as well BUT there's alot of ppl that feel cheating is cheating. I use to always ask gay dudes "If you're involved with a man that you know is bisexual would you be less mad if he cheated on you with a girl than a man?" Alot of them said they would be mad,regardless. Me? I wouldn't be as bothered because as you said..I dont have what she has and vice versa..so a woman is no threat to me. If he went out and cheated with another man..I would feel wut is it that I dont have to where u had to go get another dude. So I mos def see what you're saying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheaps Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 Insane. My thing is I dont care if you are a friend,family member or whatever ..I DONT SUPPORT things that are morally wrong. I will tell a friend/family member in a minute..YOU WRONG IN A MUTHAFUKA. this i can understand... of course u gonna tell your fam/fren when they did/do wrong.. i been in this situation, where my sis fucked around wit a married/taken man, BEST BELIEVE, i talked my shit to my sis for doin so. in this gloria situation, i love the fact she didnt give in to these bitches and let them try to make her talk about it in front of cameras an have that shit aired. if i was gloria, i be like ok.. u accuse my sister of this, fine, i have already talked to my sis, that is between yall, you still wanna be cool wit me an kick it? then dont bring it up, cuz imma always have my sisters back. and im pretty sure thats where gloria was comin from Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 this i can understand... of course u gonna tell your fam/fren when they did/do wrong.. i been in this situation, where my sis fucked around wit a married/taken man, BEST BELIEVE, i talked my shit to my sis for doin so. in this gloria situation, i love the fact she didnt give in to these bitches and let them try to make her talk about it in front of cameras an have that shit aired. if i was gloria, i be like ok.. u accuse my sister of this, fine, i have already talked to my sis, that is between yall, you still wanna be cool wit me an kick it? then dont bring it up, cuz imma always have my sisters back. and im pretty sure thats where gloria was comin from See thats why I wanna go back and check out the first season..but I cant find it anywhere. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawn1814 Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 Shawn,I know thats your motto which allows you to feel content to mess with married men...but WRONG is still WRONG just from a moral stand point.I do believe the cheater should get ALL the blame but if I'm aware of wrong doing on a family/friends behalf I will be vocal only becuz I KEEP SHIT REAL with close ppl of mine,you're suppose. 6 years ago...my bestfriend had fucked his cousins man ON HIS COUSINS BIRTHDAY and IN HIS COUSIN'S SUITE THAT HE HAD RENTED OUT FOR HIS BIRTHDAY. Not only that but he continued fucking his cousin's man!! I never would go tell his cousin what he was doing but dont think he didn't get an ear full from me. Thats his fucking family he's fucking over thats completely unacceptable. Stay out of grown folks business.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cheaps Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 @ ijanet ^^ yea , i tried findin it too, just for u to watch, i dunno thats my thoughts of the whole gloria/shaunie situation Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawn1814 Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 I say fuck them both, the cheater and the cheating assistant...I do not cosign wrong shit from any damn body, especially family...if you think you are in a better place morally because all you did was participate in a person cheating, IMO your logic is severely flawed...if you knowing engage in an intimate relationship with someone who is currently in a relationship, both of you are in the same trifling boat...my advice to that person would be, get some self respect and some respect for other people...your self esteem has to be troubled if you think all you deserve is a muthafucka who is currently in a relationship with someone else...I'm sorry, but I don't want half fuckin person For SOME it's not about wanting to be with that person.. Relax it's just sex..and only sex.. I do agree that a person that falls for someone that is currently involved has some issues.. But a person sexing a person that is involved is only out for one thing.. Hit me off and keep that shit moving.. And once again.. It all comes back to the cheater. They know they are in the relationship..... Even if they make the attempt and someone denies them.. YOU lost him because he will move on to someone else.. Pack your shit up and take the L.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted February 25, 2011 Author Share Posted February 25, 2011 For SOME it's not about wanting to be with that person.. Relax it's just sex..and only sex.. I do agree that a person that falls for someone that is currently involved has some issues.. But a person sexing a person that is involved is only out for one thing.. Hit me off and keep that shit moving.. And once again.. It all comes back to the cheater. They know they are in the relationship..... Even if they make the attempt and someone denies them.. YOU lost him because he will move on to someone else.. Pack your shit up and take the L.. I kinda agree Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted February 25, 2011 Share Posted February 25, 2011 For SOME it's not about wanting to be with that person.. Relax it's just sex..and only sex.. I do agree that a person that falls for someone that is currently involved has some issues.. But a person sexing a person that is involved is only out for one thing.. Hit me off and keep that shit moving.. And once again.. It all comes back to the cheater. They know they are in the relationship..... Even if they make the attempt and someone denies them.. YOU lost him because he will move on to someone else.. Pack your shit up and take the L.. You know I'm one of the few that don't knock you for what you do,never have but I think part of the problem is that the mistress does NOT think they are doing anything wrong and thats what concerns me. You dont have an obligation to the wife,this is true -I agree 100% but if I recall back when you were in a relationship,didn't you say he had cheated or had lied about something that made you believe he was a cheater? All Im saying is..how can you (years later) become the "monster" that broke up your happy home?Since you know what thats like ,if anything it seems you would be sensitive to that type of behavior and not indulge yourself in being apart of someone elses pain. You've been that "wife" and I dont know if this behavior stems from you being jaded from your past pain or what. Its very parallel to a person who contracts HIV and is so angry at the world to where he wants to go out and spread it to other ppl so they can feel his pain and suffer like him. Something is not quite right with that sort of stance,behavior or mentality. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawn1814 Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 You know I'm one of the few that don't knock you for what you do,never have but I think part of the problem is that the mistress does NOT think they are doing anything wrong and thats what concerns me. You dont have an obligation to the wife,this is true -I agree 100% but if I recall back when you were in a relationship,didn't you say he had cheated or had lied about something that made you believe he was a cheater? All Im saying is..how can you (years later) become the "monster" that broke up your happy home?Since you know what thats like ,if anything it seems you would be sensitive to that type of behavior and not indulge yourself in being apart of someone elses pain. You've been that "wife" and I dont know if this behavior stems from you being jaded from your past pain or what. Its very parallel to a person who contracts HIV and is so angry at the world to where he wants to go out and spread it to other ppl so they can feel his pain and suffer like him. Something is not quite right with that sort of stance,behavior or mentality. Once again.. The cheater is the one breaking up the happy home (or what you thought was a happy home..) I wasn't sure if the person I was with was cheating.. But I would never blame the person he cheated with, they have nothing to do with his decision. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 Once again.. The cheater is the one breaking up the happy home (or what you thought was a happy home..) I wasn't sure if the person I was with was cheating.. But I would never blame the person he cheated with, they have nothing to do with his decision. Shawn..I think you're missing my point. There is a RIGHT and a WRONG. We've been taught this since we were kids. Its one thing to say "Yes,Im wrong in what Im doing" and taking responsibility (as an adult) and OWNING IT,with no apologies. Then its one thing to say "Well,its all his fault because he's the cheater"..and acting as if you're actions in helping him commit adultery is no wrong doing on your part or behalf. You being present is enabling a man to cheat. Yes,if its not you it will be someone else -true. But you still can't hide behind that phrase because it doesnt erase the part you play in this whole thing.YOU are apart of the pie ate that point. All Im saying is if you're gonna be that way or live that lifestyle OWN IT instead of pointing fingers. Children point fingers..adults are suppose to own their mistakes or wrong doings. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted February 26, 2011 Author Share Posted February 26, 2011 Shawn..I think you're missing my point. There is a RIGHT and a WRONG. We've been taught this since we were kids. Its one thing to say "Yes,Im wrong in what Im doing" and taking responsibility (as an adult) and OWNING IT,with no apologies. Then its one thing to say "Well,its all his fault because he's the cheater"..and acting as if you're actions in helping him commit adultery is no wrong doing on your part or behalf. You being present is enabling a man to cheat. Yes,if its not you it will be someone else -true. But you still can't hide behind that phrase because it doesnt erase the part you play in this whole thing.YOU are apart of the pie ate that point. All Im saying is if you're gonna be that way or live that lifestyle OWN IT instead of pointing fingers. Children point fingers..adults are suppose to own their mistakes or wrong doings. Am I a dirty bitch for thinking "Yeah its kinda wrong but if they ain't cheating with me they gon' do it with somebody else anyway." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawn1814 Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 Am I a dirty bitch for thinking "Yeah its kinda wrong but if they ain't cheating with me they gon' do it with somebody else anyway." Of course they are.. THey already have it set in their minds that they are going to cheat.. Most cheaters lie about being involved and some are upfront.. There's no difference.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThatOtherFan Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 Am I a dirty bitch for thinking "Yeah its kinda wrong but if they ain't cheating with me they gon' do it with somebody else anyway." Yes, you are.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 Of course they are.. THey already have it set in their minds that they are going to cheat.. Most cheaters lie about being involved and some are upfront.. There's no difference.. Yes,if its not you it will be someone else -true. But you still can't hide behind that phrase because it doesnt erase the part you play in this whole thing.YOU are apart of the pie ate that point. All Im saying is if you're gonna be that way or live that lifestyle OWN IT instead of pointing fingers. Children point fingers..adults are suppose to own their mistakes or wrong doings. ^^^ I already ADDRESSED THAT because I knew that was gonna be you alls next angle...that aint no excuse Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawn1814 Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 Shawn..I think you're missing my point. There is a RIGHT and a WRONG. We've been taught this since we were kids. Its one thing to say "Yes,Im wrong in what Im doing" and taking responsibility (as an adult) and OWNING IT,with no apologies. Then its one thing to say "Well,its all his fault because he's the cheater"..and acting as if you're actions in helping him commit adultery is no wrong doing on your part or behalf. You being present is enabling a man to cheat. Yes,if its not you it will be someone else -true. But you still can't hide behind that phrase because it doesnt erase the part you play in this whole thing.YOU are apart of the pie ate that point. All Im saying is if you're gonna be that way or live that lifestyle OWN IT instead of pointing fingers. Children point fingers..adults are suppose to own their mistakes or wrong doings. I already own it.. lol And I still say the one he is cheating with doesn't matter because it could be anyone.. He already has it made up in his mind.. YOU LOST HIM.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted February 26, 2011 Author Share Posted February 26, 2011 Yes, you are.. don't Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 I already own it.. lol And I still say the one he is cheating with doesn't matter because it could be anyone.. He already has it made up in his mind.. YOU LOST HIM.. You DONT own it if you just point fingers at him and dont take responsibility for your role in this.Shawn you quick to say "Him,him,him" ..well what about "You,you,you?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 don't He already did.. and Joe,Im surprised at you..I wouldn't take you to be the Shawn type .. :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawn1814 Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 You DONT own it if you just point fingers at him and dont take responsibility for your role in this.Shawn you quick to say "Him,him,him" ..well what about "You,you,you?" HIm him him because I'm not the one in a relationship.. I don't have anything to lose.. I have a question.. Do you think a cheater would learn their lesson if their partner breaks up with them on the first cheat? If that keeps happening, do you think they will eventually learn? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawn1814 Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 He already did.. and Joe,Im surprised at you..I wouldn't take you to be the Shawn type .. :lol: :lmao: :lmao: Have you ever cheated? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted February 26, 2011 Author Share Posted February 26, 2011 I'm just gonna say that i've been with males and females who were willing to cheat on their partners with me and in every single situation they were the aggressor Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted February 26, 2011 Share Posted February 26, 2011 HIm him him because I'm not the one in a relationship.. I don't have anything to lose.. I have a question.. Do you think a cheater would learn their lesson if their partner breaks up with them on the first cheat? If that keeps happening, do you think they will eventually learn? I see what I was explaining completely went over your head...you KEEP missinfg my point.You have tunnel vision at this point,so forget it And to answer your question there wouldn't be anybody to cheat with if mistresses didn't enable a man to act out his cheating ways. So your role is VERY SIGNIFICANT in this whole act. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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