janetDAYZ Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Had this discussion with some folks. Say you are a single man and you are currently dating about 3 different ppl. One day one of the individuals ask "Am I the only one you're dating?" Do you think they are privy to that information or are they crossing the line of personal information? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evil. Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 There's nothing wrong with honesty....if nothing else, they will respect you more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 There's nothing wrong with honesty....if nothing else, they will respect you more. What if the question is never asked ...do you feel its necessary to tell them str8 up that you're dating other ppl? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Had this discussion with some folks. Say you are a single man and you are currently dating about 3 different ppl. One day one of the individuals ask "Am I the only one you're dating?" Do you think they are privy to that information or are they crossing the line of personal information? The fact that they had to ask to begin with means you not keeping it real wit what you doing, if you do not feel they privy to that info they should also know that you and that person(s) are not together like that, that way they understand from jump. It's shit like this that get mofos caught up because in the end what's in the dark always comes to the light, and it may bite u in the ass......keep it real Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 The fact that they had to ask to begin with means you not keeping it real wit what you doing, if you do not feel they privy to that info they should also know that you and that person(s) are not together like that, that way they understand from jump. It's shit like this that get mofos caught up because in the end what's in the dark always comes to the light, and it may bite u in the ass......keep it real bingo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 The fact that they had to ask to begin with means you not keeping it real wit what you doing, if you do not feel they privy to that info they should also know that you and that person(s) are not together like that, that way they understand from jump. It's shit like this that get mofos caught up because in the end what's in the dark always comes to the light, and it may bite u in the ass......keep it real but why should a single man have to come out and say "Well Im dating other ppl" ..for what?! You two are just having dates here and there..dinner,movie...just enjoying each others company. It just aint that serious to me to get all into well this is whats going on with me..it would be different if we decided that we wanna take it to the next level but untril then I dont feel its their business. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I wouldn't date anyone if they were dating other people at the same time as me, that's a very american concept Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
henrietta. Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Say you are a single man and you are currently dating For me this is not possible since dating ≠ being single. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 For me this is not possible since dating ≠ being single. So what do you call the stages of getting to know someone? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
henrietta. Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 So what do you call the stages of getting to know someone? Friends/just hanging out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Friends/just hanging out. Exactly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 Friends/just hanging out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
henrietta. Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Exactly. For me when someone's talking about "dating" someone else, I view that as the person doing romantic things together with someone to see if they're compatible for a relationship. If they say they're "dating" multiple people at the same time, I view that person as a dumbass for using "dating". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I agree Henry - in it's purest sense If you are just going out for dinner or whatever with people just to get to know them then it's fine to date more than one person. But a lot people call it dating when you are having sex and seeing them over and over and ur doing the same with multiple people. That's sn open relationship and I'm not down with that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Well I've set up two 'dates' with two different people for the next two weeks. It's not a date date...more like 'hey lets grab a coffee and get to know each other more' type of thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 For me when someone's talking about "dating" someone else, I view that as the person doing romantic things together with someone to see if they're compatible for a relationship. If they say they're "dating" multiple people at the same time, I view that person as a dumbass for using "dating". Isnt the point of going on dates with mutiple ppl a part of the process of getting to know ALL the potetnials? Why does it have to be one at a time? And as far as what its called..I guess it boils down to the person because alot of folks call it dating while come call it what you call it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I think 'dating' is just the easy word... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
henrietta. Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 I agree Henry - in it's purest sense If you are just going out for dinner or whatever with people just to get to know them then it's fine to date more than one person. But a lot people call it dating when you are having sex and seeing them over and over and ur doing the same with multiple people. That's sn open relationship and I'm not down with that Same page Paul...same page Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
henrietta. Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 Isnt the point of going on dates with mutiple ppl a part of the process of getting to know ALL the potetnials? Why does it have to be one at a time? And as far as what its called..I guess it boils down to the person because alot of folks call it dating while come call it what you call it. That's the "just hanging out" part. Tell me this...is the person doing romantic, sexual things with these folks? If so, the person basically has 3 fuck buddies he/she doesn't want to them about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 I agree Henry - in it's purest sense If you are just going out for dinner or whatever with people just to get to know them then it's fine to date more than one person. But a lot people call it dating when you are having sex and seeing them over and over and ur doing the same with multiple people. That's sn open relationship and I'm not down with that I get the difference. I look at it like.. -Dating is the first step (whether its multiple ppl or not) -Then there's the messing around/"talking" stage (sex,cuddling, "doing yall" -Then the exclusive stage when you all decided you want to be involved. Youre a couple at this point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 Well I've set up two 'dates' with two different people for the next two weeks. It's not a date date...more like 'hey lets grab a coffee and get to know each other more' type of thing. But if it was a DATE DATE ...it could be find to do that with two ppl,inur opinion? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 I think 'dating' is just the easy word... Right ..it easier to saying toy dating than to say "oh, we're friends ahnging out" becuase that makes it sound like a REAL friend of yours instead of a potential love interest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted June 28, 2011 Author Share Posted June 28, 2011 That's the "just hanging out" part. Tell me this...is the person doing romantic, sexual things with these folks? If so, the person basically has 3 fuck buddies he/she doesn't want to them about. NO ..thats the thing. No sex...none of that. Maybe a kiss or soemthing at the end of the date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
henrietta. Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 NO ..thats the thing. No sex...none of that. Maybe a kiss or soemthing at the end of the date. Okay...then the first part of what Paul said (the "in it's purest sense..." part) is what I'm going with. Would I tell the person if I ever did it, no because the person would try to pressure you to make them "the one" instead of letting you make it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bu. Posted June 28, 2011 Share Posted June 28, 2011 But if it was a DATE DATE ...it could be find to do that with two ppl,inur opinion? I think so. Going on a first date does not mean I'm exclusive with that one person...when we reach the exclusive mark - that is when dating other people is wrong imo. I think it's wrong to be sexing both people at the same time though. Does that make sense? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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