J. Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 "I admit it; I was deluded. I married again, this time in secret to Rene Elizondo, Jr., convinced that privacy would protect the sanctity of our bond. As a wife, I reasoned that the private Janet would have a better chance than the public Janet. Lessons learned at my mother's knee were subconsciously a part of my very being: Stick by your man; loyalty is unquestioned and absolute; never abandon, never give up; tolerate what needs to be tolerated; work it out; understand; let love see you through. It took me more than a decade to see the truth about my relationship with Rene, and it happened on an evening when I thought I was going blind.I was in Lyon, France, in 1998 on the Velvet Rope tour. In two separate accidents--one involved my dog and the other a magazine that grazed my eye--my corneas had been scratched. Somehow I made it through the show, but afterward my eyes were burning so badly that even the lights on the dashboard felt like daggers. The throbbing was excruciating. We went looking for a hospital--it was past midnight--where an impatient nurse applied a salve that only made it worse. Back at the hotel, my eyelids were swollen to the size of lipstick pencils. I cried all night. When morning came, I couldn't see. But where my eyes failed, my heart saw with a clarity I had never before known: I saw my marriage for what it was. It was that simple. My husband's concern was elsewhere. Other things dominated his attention, secret things I had failed or refused to recognize. I won't say what things because they are not mine to reveal. We'd been ensnared in a sad, sick dance. The dance involved hours of therapy but very little sincerity. The sickness was subtle. We had few arguments; there was no physical abuse. But double lives were being led; hidden agendas were being pursued. And I was seeing what I had never wanted to see. Or admit. I dislike admitting it here.I'd been played. Millions of women have gone through this. So why is it so hard to admit that I'm among them? The public Janet feels obligated to project positive vibes. The private Janet feels obligated to take the blame. I feel I should have known better, seen it coming, been wiser, smarter, shrewder. But you learn what you learn when you learn it. The chains of codependency--where egos are merged and identities confused--are strong. To break them requires real determination. Those chains have been binding us for generations. Our parents' patterns, inherited from their parents, can haunt us for a lifetime. I'm grateful that my eyes were finally opened and my heart, though broken, is on the mend." Read more: http://janet.club/thread/85237/unbreakable-album-discussion-thread?page=51#ixzz3nqgVaB8k Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoeJoe Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 (edited) Damn Rene dirty as hell for that shit. She could've gone blind and was in therapy but he didn't even give a shit. Oh I can't go to the link cause Mikel's bitch ass banned me lol Edited October 7, 2015 by JoeJoe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 I doubt she's singing about Rene 20 years later.. Coming from a forum that freaked out about Janet postponing her Vegas dates and thinking every song is about Michael Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 I doubt she's singing about Rene 20 years later.. Coming from a forum that freaked out about Janet postponing her Vegas dates and thinking every song is about Michaelthat Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J. Posted October 7, 2015 Author Share Posted October 7, 2015 I doubt she's singing about Rene 20 years later.. Coming from a forum that freaked out about Janet postponing her Vegas dates and thinking every song is about Michaeldid you even read it? She specifically uses the words codependency and lessons learned and talks about staying in a relationship that isn't healthy. u ok Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 did you even read it? She specifically uses the words codependency and lessons learned and talks about staying in a relationship that isn't healthy. u okperhaps but that interview was from 2001; this song is from 2015.. She's singing how she feels now not 14 years ago Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J. Posted October 7, 2015 Author Share Posted October 7, 2015 Who's to say she wasn't thinking about it during the sessions. This came from some life experience. That's kind of how Janet operates as a songwriter. You act as if she blocked out the memory of her past. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 (edited) Who's to say she wasn't thinking about it during the sessions. This came from some life experience. That's kind of how Janet operates as a songwriter. You act as if she blocked out the memory of her past.whose to say it's one person? Lessons Learned often come from repeating the same mistakes with multiple people and learning where you are wrong ...being able to admit you're codependent means you learned something about yourself Edited October 7, 2015 by Bailey 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J. Posted October 7, 2015 Author Share Posted October 7, 2015 why are you guys so against it being about Rene? l Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vaquero Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 isn't this an old article? I remember reading this somewhere Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bailey Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 why are you guys so against it being about Rene? lcause he doesn't matter....she wrote a song about it wanna hear it? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rock & Roll Hall of Game Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 why are you guys so against it being about Rene? lNot against it bc it's him. We're against this thoery bc it has way too many holes Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
janetDAYZ Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 (edited) Wowwwwwww. This was deep . I remember some of that article but then again some of that has be added on.. am i tripping? This seems even more revealing Edited October 7, 2015 by janetDAYZ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laveaux Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 no that's the same 'I, Janet' article. Janet has always been that insightful and that's why I stan for her. As far as the song being about Rene, whew knows. It could be about ALOT of people and Janet knows enough people that it could be about somebody else's relationship that she witnessed first hand and it compelled her to write this song. The point is who cares, enjoy the music. 9 times out of 10 (and Janet warned ya'll ass on Damita Jo)...its not who you think it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Sacred Prostitute Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 For crying out loud. I tried to hold my tongue which is why I said it was about JD#2. Now you made me break my NDA! It's about me!!!!! ME!!!!! Get some coins! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JJATL Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 Have to admit, it's a strong possibility. At the very least it definitely applies to their relationship based on that excerpt. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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